Post # 47
I had 9 people I was seriously considering as bridemaids, but I really felt like that was too much. I feel like after a certain number, it’s just too much and it becomes more of a slight to be the one friend not invited to be in the bridal party than an honor to be in the bridal party. I also imagine it would be stressful to be in a bridal part of 10+ unless there were 0 expectations for throwing a shower or bachelorette. Getting that many people to agree on a budget would be a nightmare.
I do understand that everyone’s relationships are different, and you gotta do what’s right for you, but I wouldn’t want more than 12 attendants total (split up however, I hate the idea of symmetry for symmetry’s sake)
Post # 48
I didn’t vote because I think you should go with the people who you truly want to stand up with you. I originally thought 4 each side “should” be our max (for a 60 person wedding), but every time I tried to “trim” someone from my side (I had a short list of 5), it made me really sad, so I said screw it and picked all 5. This also allowed my Fiance to ask my brother (who my Fiance knows/likes and has hung out with several times) to be his “extra” groomsman (I like symmetry, to each their own), which made me really happy.
Post # 49
I can’t put a hard number on it, but I am not a fan of large parties because I feel like you should be really close and have history with all of your attendants, otherwise it stops meaning as much. I have very, very good friends who are not attendants. One of them even went dress shopping with me. Another I set up with her husband who I’m also close friends with. I am soooo excited to have those ladies at my wedding. But not everyone needs to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. BUat I understand everyone’s situation is different, so I won’t set a number, but when I hear from friends about weddings they are in, when it sounds like they are there to be accessories or bc the bride thought they’d be fun for the bachelorette, I judge.