(Closed) How can a disabled out-of-town MOB help when not paying for wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@discokitty:  Collecting addresses? (even if you already have them mostly togehter). Is she computer savvy? Do you have a website? She could write things for it. Hmmm. Putting a list together of things to do for out of town guests?  Has she gotten a MOB dress yet? I know that involves physical things but it’s one thing she could do with you or a friend. 

Post # 5
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Send her shoe and accessory options (not just for you, but BM’s too) online and have her help you pick!?

Post # 6
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Is there a diy project she can do like escort cards?

Post # 7
855 posts
Busy bee

Oooh yes, she doesn’t have to DO anything but you could run all ideas by her and ask for her opinions on stuff.

Just a phone call every so often to say “omg I found these two things but I don’t know which is better, can you help me decide?”

My mum’s out-of-town but although she’s helping with a lot of things, I do always ring her about EVERYTHING 🙂

Post # 8
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Bless her sweet heart. This advice will depend on your relationship with her and what she’s like, I suppose.

My mom was out-of-town and is just not a big…girly-things planner. She was excited and happy for us and wanted to make sure that we were happy with everything, but she had no opinion on invites, dresses, etc etc etc.

The biggest and most constant thing she did for me, though, was to be the practical ear for everything involving logistics and set-up. We talked through scheduling and agenda things a lot, especially in the days up to the event. Her perspective was great and she asked questions that really helped me get the schedule down smoothly.

So, I would maybe ask your mom to “check your work” on some of the scheduling and logistics. This might help her to feel like she was a big part of making everything go well.

Post # 9
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My mom is in the same town, and she’s happy to help, but she’s not really into wedding/girly stuff or DIY. So I just chatter to her constantly about what I’m planning. I think it keeps her feeling involved without actually having to glue stuffWink

Post # 10
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@discokitty:  I think just including her in what is going on would be great. If you are having programs or favours, maybe she could help assemble those or tie ribbons on them. That is so sweet she wants to help and you are concerned about her. 

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