Post # 1
Fiance and I are paying for our own wedding, my Future Mother-In-Law is hosting the shower and rechearsal dinner, and I’m in good shape in terms of what we’re doing for centerpieces & decorations (purchased everything already), save-the-dates are out, etc. Our favors are even done.
My mom lives about an hour away and has trouble getting around due to back problems. She recently asked what the parents of the bride should do, and I have no idea. I think she feel sleft out. In a moment of inspiration, my mom, dad and brother were in town and I asked them to go with me to pick out dress #2 (unfortunately), and that was a great experience.
Any ideas of other things she could do? I think she also feels bad because of the physical limitations.
Post # 3
@discokitty: Collecting addresses? (even if you already have them mostly togehter). Is she computer savvy? Do you have a website? She could write things for it. Hmmm. Putting a list together of things to do for out of town guests? Has she gotten a MOB dress yet? I know that involves physical things but it’s one thing she could do with you or a friend.
Post # 4
love108 Thanks for the suggestions! However, our website is done (including suggested activities for out-of-town guests) and we have all of the addresses, but maybe she could help with out-of-town gift bags or they could host a morning after brunch for out-of-towners…
Post # 5
Send her shoe and accessory options (not just for you, but BM’s too) online and have her help you pick!?
Post # 6
Is there a diy project she can do like escort cards?
Post # 7
Oooh yes, she doesn’t have to DO anything but you could run all ideas by her and ask for her opinions on stuff.
Just a phone call every so often to say “omg I found these two things but I don’t know which is better, can you help me decide?”
My mum’s out-of-town but although she’s helping with a lot of things, I do always ring her about EVERYTHING 🙂
Post # 8
Bless her sweet heart. This advice will depend on your relationship with her and what she’s like, I suppose.
My mom was out-of-town and is just not a big…girly-things planner. She was excited and happy for us and wanted to make sure that we were happy with everything, but she had no opinion on invites, dresses, etc etc etc.
The biggest and most constant thing she did for me, though, was to be the practical ear for everything involving logistics and set-up. We talked through scheduling and agenda things a lot, especially in the days up to the event. Her perspective was great and she asked questions that really helped me get the schedule down smoothly.
So, I would maybe ask your mom to “check your work” on some of the scheduling and logistics. This might help her to feel like she was a big part of making everything go well.
Post # 9
My mom is in the same town, and she’s happy to help, but she’s not really into wedding/girly stuff or DIY. So I just chatter to her constantly about what I’m planning. I think it keeps her feeling involved without actually having to glue stuff
Post # 10
@discokitty: I think just including her in what is going on would be great. If you are having programs or favours, maybe she could help assemble those or tie ribbons on them. That is so sweet she wants to help and you are concerned about her.