Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I have one Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister, who is a pain..lol) and one Bridesmaid or Best Man (a friend). We were looking at dresses last week for them and every dress I liked they didn’t and the dresses they liked, I didn’t. Dresses that looked good on my sister, didn’t look good on my friend and vice versa (my sis is a size 8 and my friend a size 24). My sister refuses to wear anything that isn’t tight, short, and provacative. This is NOT something I want for my wedding! My Bridesmaid or Best Man got frustrated with my sister and asked if they could wear two different dresses but I REALLY REALLY want them to wear the same dress since I only have two girls. How can I be stronger and stand my ground without letting them push over me. How can I get the courage to tell them that we are going with a dress I like because it is MY wedding? Of course I would pick a dress that is flattering on BOTH girls and inexpensive. Please help Bees <3
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Well, what are their reasons for not wanting to wear the dress that you like on both of them? Does it legitimately look bad on one of the girls? Because then that’s not going to look good in pictures either–not to mention, one of them will be unhappy and uncomfortable and that will show as well. If it’s a more petty reason (like one of them doesn’t like the color or something like that), that’s different and I think you’re within your rights to play the bride card. Also, how much are the dresses? If they’re expensive, then it becomes more difficult and unfair to force one of them to wear something that she hates.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
@hilsy85: my Bridesmaid or Best Man likes the dresses I like, but my sister (MOH) wants to wear something super super short and tight which I do not want. I am trying to find a dress that flatters both and is inexpensive but it is very difficult when my sister will not work with me. At least my Bridesmaid or Best Man will. So frustrated 🙁
Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
If your sister is the problem, could you get your mom to talk to her? There’s nothing like a little mom guilt….
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
Not sure how your relationship is with your sister but I know mine and if she was acting like that I’d just tell her to knock it off and deal with it.
If you want to approach it more subtly why not tell her, “you look great in everything but Bridesmaid or Best Man #2 can’t rock the short and tight quite like you” and ask her if she’d mind going with something more conservative that will also look great on your other Bridesmaid or Best Man. That’s something that compliments her but doesn’t bring attention to the risque way she wants to dress. Just an idea. Good luck!