(Closed) How can I bring up the bridesmaids dress question?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This seems to be a very region/culture specific thing – my bms offered to pay for their dresses, but that’s just not the done thing round here. I was under the impression most US bms pay for their own, but that’s only from my observations here in the Hive!

How many BMs will you have? Could you bring it up gently,  maybe in the way of asking what they think is a fair budget to set for dresses, or something like that?

Post # 4
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well it’s pretty standard that bridesmaids pay for their own dresses so I would just act like that is a well understood fact.  why do you think that they are under the impression that you will pay for them?

Post # 5
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it is kind of weird that they expect you to pay . . . Is that typical in your area or with your group of friends or family?

I would maybe test the waters by sending them an email with the dresses you like and the prices of the dresses and ask their opinion.  Say something along the lines of you wanting to be considerate of the dress price, since they have to buy them and if they would be comfortable purchasing any of the dresses you sent them . . .

Post # 6
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would talk about budget with them, how much they think that a good amount is that they can afford, along with alterations and accessories. Or you can give them “bridesmaids cards” which explains what they are responsible for and what is expected of them as your bridal party. I think theknot makes them.

Post # 7
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

It seems odd that they’d assume you’re paying – generally BMs have to pay for their own dresses. I would start talking to them about what they’re thinking they want and how much they can afford – then they can give you input and you’re also subtly reminding them that they’re paying.

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