(Closed) How can i deal with his depression?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

It is a very long process, I understand the frustration he feels with trying new medications, I have had depression I think since I was a child/early teens, but I only got help and got diagnosed last year. The combination of therapy and medication can be mentally exhausting as well as frustrating.

Fiance has been my rock in all of this, there for me if I needed to talk, and if I didn’t was still there for me. He is the only one I have told everything to, all my problems, self doubt, etc. The only one. While he has had to listen to all my problems, etc I am always there for him too, and he knows he can tell me anything.

Don’t be afraid to tell him how you feel, he will be there for you like you are there for him. 

Depression is something that often has to be battled for a lifetime, so it will not be something you can just fix or make him better. It is hard to make someone battling depression smile, don’t worry about making him smile all the time, that is exhausting for you too.

Just be there for him like you always have been, and encourage him to try getting help again.

Post # 4
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2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hi there, I have a Fiance with depression and sometimes it can be really frustrating when we’re having a good day and all of a sudden he gets real down and says he’s depressed and has no idea why.  It is difficult not to take it personally, and I have gotten better at not always asking him what’s wrong, etc. when he doesn’t know because sometimes it just makes things even more frustrating for both of us.  I think the best advice I have for you would be to encourage him as much as possible (ie not nag!) about seeing someone, getting back on meds, and also just being there for him.  Rub his back and give him a peck on the cheek when he’s down, let him know you care in little ways like that.  Try and be patient, I know it’s not always easy, but for me personally Fiance is worth it.  Hope this helps, and good luck. *hugs*

Post # 6
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9627 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@sapphirecupcake:  Everyone’s battle with depression is different so while you were able to open up to him and he isn’t opening up to you now it doesn’t mean it’s a ‘man thing’ or that either of you did anything wrong, it is just different battles. 

As for how to cope with it, make sure you take some time out for yourself to relax every day if possible or at least once a week. Is there any hobby he used to have or magazines he likes? Perhaps bring some home with you. But don’t always plan activities, for many battling depression going out and doing things will not help.

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