(Closed) How can I do a non-risqué garter toss?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
4804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have never even heard of that tradition so I certainly wouldn’t expect it.  Any garter toss I’ve seen just involves the garter coming off the bride and being tossed and then the bride and groom usually take a photo with the guy who caught the garter and the girl who caught the bouquet.

Post # 4
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@nawella:  Maybe you can give it to the longest married couple attending… no tossing or anything literally just hand it to them and maybe let them have a slow dance or something?

Post # 6
9918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why do you want to do it if you don’t want to…do it?  It’s already risque since your husband is supposed to pull it off with his teeth or some such nonsense.  Why not just not do it?  We didn’t, and we’re still just as married as the next couple.

Post # 7
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I had never seen the “put the garter on the girl who got the bouquet” until this past weekend (although I’d heard about it here). 


In my family, they just ask the two winners to dance together or, sometimes, we just move on with the party. I find the garter-putting really, really off-putting.


Post # 8
5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve only seen this happen one time and it will only happen if your MC says to do it so i wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 9
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@nawella:  I had never heard of the part of the tradition. My fi and i will be doing the garter toss w/o that part of it.  I don’t see the problem with not doing it. Just don’t have the DJ announce that he needs to put it on her leg.

Post # 10
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nawella:  I’ve never heard of it. We didn’t want to do a garter auction, which was typical in my area, so we did a garter dance off and gave it to whoever the crowd cheered for. However, I said if my dad even got out there to dance that he would automatically get it. My didn’t even care about the garter. He just went out there to dance. It was awesome. Maybe you could do an alternative like that?

Post # 11
2144 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I saw one on pinterest where they put the garter on a football and tossed that. You don’t need to have it come off your leg or put it on anybody either. 

Post # 12
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Every wedding i’ve been to, the unfortunate ones that catch the bouquet & garter need to uncomfortably sit through putting on a garter on a stranger (or another family member lol). Last wedding first cousin one had to endure putting a garter on first cousin two, which ended in pure comic relief for everyone watching. It was SO weird bahaha! 

The other wedding I went to, the brides sister who’s 20 years old caught the garter. It was the guys turn and a 50-something man (who dates much younger women) ran up to catch the garter. You should have seen the face he was given by the girls dad. If looks could kill. 

Post # 13
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MizzStark1026:  Creepy!

I’ve been to one wedding where one person insisted that the garter had to be put on the bouquet girl’s leg and no one else had heard of it, but the one person was insistent enough (and had the microphone I think) so it was done.

I’m going to make sure that whoever has the microphone knows we’re not doing that at my wedding…. I don’t want to put one of my friends through that!

Post # 14
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Oh, and pulling the garter off by the teeth and/or having his head under my dress isn’t happening either! Reaching up with his hand is just fine!

Post # 16
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@nawella:  Ugh. The dreaded garter. It’s totally awkward. Some ides (which may or may not have already been mentioned)

1) Girl puts garter on guys’ leg/arm  (cue crowds’ rawring laughter)

2) Bouquet breaks into pieces (3+) and the ladie’s still put it on the guy

3) Bouquet breaks into tons of petals so nobody catches it; start playing “single ladies” and invite the single men back onto the dance floor.

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