- 8 years ago
So as I’ve posted previously, we are in the process of ring shopping.
We have joint finances so we will be paying for the ring together, from our joint savings (which are savings for our house but there’s no savings anywhere else for a ring/wedding).
The Mr wants me to choose my own ring. He’s frightened that he’ll get it wrong and wants me to love it. This is very considerate and I’m glad I have input into choosing a style.
However, I really want him to be more involved in choosing the ring! It would mean so much to me if he did research about diamonds and rings and put time and effort into finding my ring.
At the moment, I am doing all the research and this makes me feel uncomfortable, almost like I’m being greedy. i don’t want to be on diamond forums and phoning jewellers and talking prices – I want him to be the one doing all this kind of thing! Otherwise it’s just like going and buying a ring for myself. Zero romance there.
Even though we’re paying for it jointly I would really like it to be a gift from him, and I care about this much more than what the ring actually looks like.
Argh! I’ve tried to explain this to him but no luck..he says “but you have to be happy with it, it’s your ring and you’ll be wearing it forever. You need to choose it.”