I think it’s funny how some people who are completely okay with upstrip clubs and lap dances get so mad at people who aren’t and vice versa. A person cannot control or change their feelings how they view something.
Some people are fine with swinging, some people are fine with strip clubs, some are fine with lap dances, others are not. It doesn’t make a person better or worse if they are okay with these things, or not okay with these things.
The only thing that does matter, is that the bf/fiance/husband knows how you feel about these things, and that boundaries and rules are set.
If a man truly loves their wife/gf/fiance, and they tell them that strip clubs make them really uncomfortable, I don’t see the big deal here. He doesn’t get to go look at other naked women, how will life go on?
I never have never understood wanting to go to strip clubs. I just don’t have any desire to be in a room with a bunch of naked men or women, or watch them dance or something. I’m lucky though, as my boyfriend feels the same way. He’s told me he’d rather have his own private strip dance at home and have me give him a lap dance. 😉 I also don’t get the whole, oh we are about to commit to each other for life, now let me go have fun watching other naked people and having them dance on me tradition, but I digress. (That said, if both people are okay with it, then whatever floats your boat)
OP, you shouldn’t feel bad for not feeling comfortable with strip clubs, and not wanting him to go to one. Text him now, or call him, and just tell him flat out, I don’t want you to go to a strip club, I’m not comfortable with it and it would make it hard for me to be intimate with you after. Strip clubs are a deal breaker for me.
Be very clear. Don’t make yourself feel bad about this, it’s okay to not be okay with it. Just make sure you are very clear with him, so he fully understands that is not something that is okay in your relationship.
Also, it’s not a whole trust issue thing either. You can trust someone, and still not be gung ho for strip clubs.
For example, I trust my boyfriend completely, I have no problem when he goes on work or friends road trips with female friends only and shares a room with them. I just don’t want him going to strip clubs, and he’s fine with it. My logic is, he has me, why on earth does he need to go to strip club? I know he wouldn’t do anything bad, I just don’t like the idea of it.