Post # 1
My friend (bride) lives in another state… her Maid/Matron of Honor sister lives there too, but isn’t too excited about the wedding. She is younger, and I know it can be difficult, but she does not seem too into helping the bride with her wedding. I actually think they might not be speaking now. Myself (bridesmaid) and the other bridesmaid live in the same area/state. We both want the bride to be excited about everything, but it is hard because we are so far away from her. We can’t go dress shopping, etc. and do all the normal stuff with her because of distance. We are definitely going to try to visit for a weekend to help and do stuf, but besides that– what can we do? I want the bride to feel excited and enjoy this process. What can I do from a distance that will cheer her up?
Post # 3
It’s nice that the bride has a friend like you who is genuinely interested in her welfare.
Talk with her, assure her that you are interested in what’s going on iwth her, and then listen to what she says.
She may not be “excited” because she may not be interested in the details of the wedding. It happens. There are threads on this board about it.
Let her be who she is.
Post # 4
You could send her a silly gift (helium balloon, teddy, cupcakes) every month from now until the wedding with “6 Months to Go”, “5 Months to Go” etc….
I had a lot of fun with my mother looking on the internet (she’s in the UK, I’m in Greece) searching for dresses. You could arrange a date to do that – it really is fun.
Send little emails of things you find she may like, or that will make her laugh with regards to the wedding.
If you’re organising her bachelorette, tell her it’s going to be a surprise, and then just send her little clues until then to get her excited about it all.
Skype is a wonderful thing – use it so she can see how excited you are for her, it really does make a difference.
Post # 5
I am loving some of you ideas.
Yes you cant make the sister get excited if she does not want to be all you can do is be there for your friend and try to do things to make her feel as though she has your support
Post # 6
That’s so sweet! You could ask about her plans – accessories, shoes, flowers, etc. She may want an oppurtunity to talk about it. Also, you could send her some ideas of your own to get her talking.
Post # 7
She’s so lucky to have a friend like you! LOVE @Cariad: ideas!!!
Post # 8
@Cariad: Aww, I love the idea of sending her something every month as a little count down! That’s so fun! Two of my bridesmaids live out of state and it makes me feel good to know that they are excited about the wedding. There is so much going on with my FI’s family right now I haven’t really felt like anyone is excited about the wedding, so it means a lot to know my girls are looking forward to it almost as much as I am! Your friend is very lucky to have you in her life (and bridal party!)
Post # 9
@Cariad: I LOVE the idea of sending her something every month with a countdown!! I’m definitely going to do that!
I do talk to her all the time, mainly on gchat, and we will video chat. I just had my wedding so I’m always giving her advice on all the stuff.
Post # 10
any other ideas bees? what are some fun, but cheap things I could send as a countdown?