(Closed) how can i help my hurt bridesmaids who hate men

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Have any of these women been in counseling? I know, for me, counseling has been one of the best ways I’ve moved past things in life.

A lot of times it just takes time though too. The more they are exposed to and around men who aren’t jerks, it should help too.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hi Bridepower, I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man exactly like this. I feel as though she sets herself up for disaster with men as she won’t even talk to the type of guy who won’t run away with her feelings. Every time I talk to her i feel like I’m a counselor as she asks me over and over for advice (and doesn’t listen), cries and gets very emotional/down in the dumps. It’s hard for me as a bride because I’m planning the most wonderful/romantic day in my life, but I feel bad talking to her about it and she has a tendency to drag me down. 

I personally feel as though this Bridesmaid or Best Man is asking for trouble with the way she goes about dating. And even though I always give her great advice, she never listens. I am considering talking to her and setting up rules about when she can complain to me. For example, if I told her not to call a guy right away after the 1st date and she doesn’t listen and calls/texts/emails him (she does all 3!) then she is not allowed to complain to me. My sister actually suggested giving her general dating rules and if she breaks any of them, complaining and self pity are off limits. I think I’ll wait until after the wedding to do this as I don’t want to deal with the emotional stress of being her counselor right now.

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