Post # 1
My dad passed away when I was 12. I would like to find a way to honor his memory at our ceremony, without making it really sad. My mom wants the officiant to make a little statement during, but I don’t know if that’s appropriate. Or is that ok? Or any other ideas of how to incorporate my dad into the ceremony without making the ceremony too sad or somber?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
My Dad just passed away in November, so during our ceremony our Pastor did a little blurb about remembering the ones that couldn’t be here on our day and mentioned my dad. We also put a little section in our program with a list of our passed loved ones. Finally, I had a bouquet charm with a picture of my dad so he could still walk me down the aisle.
Post # 4
For my DH father that passed away we had a picture of him from his wedding day in a nice frame with a vase of his favorite flowers at the begging of the of the isle on the table where the programs and stuff were. My Husband is also wearing his Dads wedding band which is really special to him.
Post # 5
I’m not yet sure if I want our officiant to name my dad during our ceremony (only because I’m afraid I’ll start crying) but I know for sure that I want him named in our program, “In loving memory of…” and I’ll also be carrying a charm with his picture on my bouquet (it can later become a necklace charm). Found this one on Etsy from “AristoCrafty.”
Post # 6
My mom died when I was 19 and i’m defnitiely getting a photo charm to put on my bouquet! We’ll also have a memorial flower arrangement at the altar and a blurp about it representing my mom in the program.
I would suggest that if it is going to be too hard for you to hear something aobut your dad during your ceremony then don’t have your offciant say anything. I know for me personally it’s going to be a really hard day wishing my mom was there but I hope to only cry happy tears and not sad ones that day.
Post # 7
I’ve seen/read about a couple of ideas:
1) incorporate something of his into your wedding outfit (a picture, a charm, a piece of jewlry of his, have his name initialed into your wedding gown) I wore my grandmother’s boots and carried my DH’s grandmother’s rosary to honor them; as well as including them in the prayers during the ceremony.
2) This is from a different thread (and I teared up when I read it. I think it’s beautiful…although it may be a little somber): We are actually in a similar boat. My Fiance’s mom passed away last year, so we are keeping one chair for the ceremony, empty, when he comes down the isle he is going to place a rose, when his dad, and sisters, same thing and when I walk down I will have my mom holding one to hand to me to place on the chair as well.
3) Also from a different thread: When we did our unity candles we went around to our parents and grandparents, who had a rose for each person we wanted to remember. We put them in a vase up on the altar.