- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2019
The TL;DR for this post is: I want to play some polka music at the reception for my German family. Should I just have a block of polka music (somewhere between 30 and 60 minutes?), or is it better to alternate and throw some polka songs in among the other types of music?
Backstory: My heritage is half German; my dad’s family all immigrated to the US from Germany shortly after WWII and continue to maintain a lot of their cultural customs. They all used to love polka dancing, because obviously that was more “in” when they were young, and even though a lot of them are quite elderly now, I have been to German events with a polka band and seen them tear up the dancefloor!
One of my cousins got married a couple years ago, and once the dancing started, I was surprised when I saw all the “old folks” just sitting around chit-chatting. I went over to my grandmother and said, “How come you’re not out on the dancefloor?!” And she said, “Oh, you know, this isn’t really our kind of music, we don’t know how to dance to this. We’ll just let you young people dance to this, this is more your style of music.” And that made me so sad, because I know they really love to dance, and they will get out there given the right kind of music.
My dad’s side of the family will make up a large chunk of the guests at our wedding (about 1/3 of the guests). So I really want to play some polka music for them, but I’m not sure how to work it in. Originally I was thinking just start off the evening with maybe 30-40 minutes of polka music, but my FH thinks that will turn off a lot of other people who are eager to start dancing, because what are they supposed to do during that time? Another thing to consider is that the old folks maybe don’t have as much stamina as they used to, so it might be too tiring for them to dance continuously for 30 minutes. FH suggests just having the DJ play a polka song or two every so often, mix it in with all the other music. However, polka is WAY different from the other styles of music we will have (country, pop, some old-school alternative like Blink 182, and the standard oldies hits you tend to hear at weddings). I’m afraid that it will totally clear out the dancefloor, and that might be too disruptive to the party to keep doing that? On the other hand, maybe our non-polka-dancing guests won’t mind the occasional breaks and just use the time to use the restroom and refill their drinks. And a lot of our friends are pretty easy to coax onto the dancefloor, so it probably shouldn’t be too difficult to fill up the floor again after a break for a song or two.
Which option do you think would be better? Play it all at once, or spread it out with the other music? Or if you have other suggestions, I’m open to hearing them!