(Closed) How can I let HIS friend down without causing drama and dilemma?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Teaparty22: Has she brought it up again, or was this the only time?

If she only brought it up once like that, I just wouldn’t address it. She had no right to assume she was in the wedding and put you in that awkward position.

If she keeps pressuring you, don’t give in if you don’t want her in the wedding. You could also give her another role on the big day if you want to have her involved in some way, like attending to the guest book, serving cake or punch, or being a personal attendant. 

Post # 4
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Teaparty22: Wow, that’s a bit much on her part.

If she asks again you can just let her know that you guys haven’t finalized the bridal party yet and that you have a lot of people to think about.

She has no right to be hurt if you don’t choose her (unless you told her you would at some point). 

And depending on how you guys feel she can always stand up on his side…especially if she is his friend more than yours. 

Or you can let her know that you’ve both planned a more “traditional” wedding (ladies with the bride and men with the groom) and would love for her to be a part of the wedding by being in charge of helping iwth decorations or the dessert table or gift table or something to that effect.

(My Fiance was in a family members wedding while I was on the side-lines. I offered to help with the set-up, take down, making sure the presents were kept in a seperate room, etc. The bride and I know each other but aren’t best buds. I figure I might as well help where I can. It worked out fine and I was able to take home some left over favors.) 

Post # 5
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

How did you respond when she asked? Did you ignore the question or tell her you hadn’t chosen the bridal party yet?

Post # 6
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Teaparty22: If she’s his friend, make her a groomswoman. She can stand on his side. 

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