(Closed) How can I make FI feel better about guest list? (pretty long)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Regarding the room block: that was a huuuge stress point for me too. In the end, just remember there are always more rooms! Whether it’s at that hotel or another, everyone will find somewhere to stay. There’s only so much you can do, so realize you’ve done what you can and people will have to work a little for themselves at this point. 🙂

 

Regarding your Fiance: Maybe try to make him focus on the idea that at the end of the day, it’s about you two and your marriage. Not saying he’s not justified in being sad, but try to make it more “we are each other’s family now and regardless of who is there, that is our day and it will be amazing”. Maybe even suggest going out to wherever your Fiance is from and having a post-wedding (or pre-wedding) celebration there? Even if it’s just a small dinner get-together where he can share his excitement with his family and especially grandpa

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You mentioned that your invites haven’t gone out and you’re not yet at the 3-month mark. Could it be that people didn’t realize that they had to give a reply because it doesn’t feel official yet since invites haven’t gone out? I wouldn’t take all the counts as final until the RSVPs are back. You mentioned that you are behind in wedding planning, maybe some people aren’t ready to say yes or no? You never know!

Drop the hotel block. Unless you’re getting married in some place where hotel rooms sell like hotcakes, don’t subject your parents to a financial outlay that might actually hurt them in the long run. I’m sure there will be plenty of hotel rooms available

As for Grandpa, maybe find a way to include him through iPad Facetime or some other kind of instant chat?

In the meantime remind your Fiance that the people who are coming are supporting you two all the way!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@laurenm78:  Yes, I’ve seen FaceTime now at two weddings I attended. Some people set it up on a table near the ceremony, and then afterwards the bride & groom come over to the iPad and wave hello! It’s super super cute!!!

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