(Closed) How can I politely tell them “no more goats?”

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 108
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I just saw this and it made me think of this post – I imagine it could be where they got the idea?

Post # 109
2419 posts
Buzzing bee

On a related note, for anyone who makes it this far into the thread: Have you heard of the I Do Foundation? (www.idofoundation.org)

It allows you to select a charity where people can donate on your behalf (so, if you wanted to encourage charitable donations but would prefer that it support a rape crisis center rather than Heifer Int’l, you can set it up that way), and it also gives the option for people to get you a more traditional registry gift, but if they purchase it by linking through the site, the store gives a percentage of the purchase to your charity (at no additional cost to your guests). It’s pretty cool.

Re. a PP’s comment that “it’s a wedding, not a fundraiser” – yes, that’s right, it’s not a fundraiser. That’s exactly why it’s presumptuous to ask for cash. I know all of us have our needs and problems and paying for a wedding, etc., is not easy, but I’m willing to bet that any of us who are able to sit at a computer in the developed world and choose to spend time posting on WeddingBee are in a lot more comfortable circumstances than the subsistence farmers who received those goats. Yeah, we might enjoy getting the cash as a gift, but in our lives it will come and go. Those goats stand to totally turn things around for the families that receive them, and (in Heifer’s model, anyhow), when they have offspring, those get passed along to another family, and so on, and eventually a LOT of people stand to benefit a great deal from that gift of a goat. God bless your colleague for doing it.

Post # 110
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had to read this post when I saw the title. My first thought was that it was going to be a cultural tradition. LOL! I’ve actually heard of this charity before, but I never really thought of giving as a gift to anyone.

I think that by saying that you and your Fiance have already made a home together, that most but apparently not all people will know what you mean.

On the bright side, you’ll have plenty to write about in the thank you cards assuming you get updates on your goats.

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