Post # 1
To start, let me say that I fully support a woman’s right to propose to her boyfriend. However, this is a tricky situation because he has already proposed to me! My Fiance proposed several months ago, and since then, he has been dropping very subtle hints that he wants an engagement ring too (hints such as “where’s my ring?” and “I want an engagement ring” lol). I want to do something more than just buy something for him though because I am all about the grand romantic gesture, but I am not sure what to say. We are going on a cruise in December and I definitely want to pop the question at some point during that, but what question? I already know the answer to “will you marry me” because we are already engaged.
Any ideas, bees?
Post # 3
… That is a tough one, maybe ask him if he will wear your ring?
Sorry I’m pretty stumped, hopefully someone else has better advice 🙂
Good luck though, it sounds wonderful!
Post # 4
Aww, that’s so cute! I love that he wants to be proposed to too. 🙂 You could phrase the way MrsvH-T: suggested, which I like. Or if you guys like to be silly, you could ask, “Will you put up with my snoring and annoying family (or insert your own inside joke) for the rest of our lives?”
Post # 5
If it were me (and I’m all about embarassing my other half), I would come up with a speech and get down on one knee in the middle of a crowded place.
Something like, “Captain Crunch, you bring such joy to me every day. You’re my best friend, my favorite person in the world, and I want to spend every day of the rest of my life with you. Will you wear my ring/will you marry me?”
Post # 6
& More power to ya! Fiance didn’t propose to me; we proposed to eachother. 🙂
Post # 7
I would ask him to marry you haha. Just be super romantic and do exactly what a guy would do…get down on one knee and everything. That’s really sweet!!! I love that idea.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice, you guys!
I like the idea of asking him to “wear my ring” instead of marry me because I still think it’s a little weird to ask him to marry me if we are already engaged. I mean, we have already started a little bit of wedding planning and all so he better marry me! lol
The kind of funny thing is, we went to his dad’s shop (his dad is a jeweler and made my engagement ring), and I talked to him about a specific design that I saw on etsy that I had in mind. His dad wouldn’t do it though He said (and I know this isn’t true anymore) that guys don’t wear engagement rings. His family is pretty traditionally though and my Fiance said to just get it online if his dad won’t make it for us. It’ll be cheaper to get it online anyway because it only comes in sterling silver and yellow gold, and Fiance doesn’t like yellow gold.
The other question is – when to give it to him? I wanted to wait ’til the cruise in December, but Fiance just started a job as a bartender in a really popular brunch place here, so I want all the girls and guys that may hit on him to know that he is spoken for . On the cruise, on formal night, there are photographers with backdrops set up, and I was going to use an idea I found somewhere (maybe the bee?) to pop the ring out and surprise him during the photo shoot, but that seems so far away! The other possibility for during the cruise would be on the beach somewhere. Otherwise, I guess I could just take him out to dinner here, but we go out to dinner literally all the time (our first year living in DC and we are foodies). That is part of the reason I haven’t bought his ring yet because I am terrible at surprises and I always tell whoever it is within a few days of buying the gift.
The other reason I haven’t bought the ring yet is that I can’t decide which one! So, bees, help me with this too, please? All of them say “Ani Le Dodi Ve Dodi Li” which means: “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine”. They are also made by an etsy seller from Israel. Israel, and being Jewish, are really important to us so I thought these would be special.
Choice three: Less traditionally according to Future Father-In-Law because apparently Jewish wedding rings aren’t supposed to be cut-out like that?
Post # 9
You could say something along the lines of “Baby, on so & so day you made me the happiest woman alive by asking me to spend the rest of my life you. With that being said, will you wear this ring to show the rest of the world your never ending love for me?” 😛 Something like that.
Post # 10
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: Oh man that is perfect! You are much better with words than I Thanks!
Post # 11
@baalclone: You’re welcome! Good luck & when you two return from your cruise in December let us know how it went! 😀
Post # 12
awww i love this whole idea!! of the rings you posted, i really love choice 2, but it might look really wide on an actual finger. is this ring going to be different than his wedding band? because if it is, choice 3 would be fine–traditionally Jewish wedding bands aren’t supposed to have any breaks/are supposed to be solid, but if it isn’t an actual wedding band, i think it’s fine…? it’s really up to you guys though. i know Jewish couples that don’t adhere to that tradition anyway.
and as for asking him, even though you are engaged I think you can still ask him to marry you. even though hubs and I already are married, I still sometimes like asking him if he’d marry me 😉 to me it kind of symbolizes the fact that staying in love and commited to one another is an active choice we make every day. there’s no way the answer would be no, but it’s still nice to think of it as a choice so we don’t take it for granted
ETA: on the when you’d ask–I’m like you and would be totally way too impatient not to ask right away! I don’t think I’d be able to wait until the cruise if I were you!