Post # 1
Just need to vent. I just got this e-mail from my mom, which was sent to her by my uncle in response to her asking if he was attending the rehearsal dinner:
“Actually, I will not be attending the wedding…Sorry about that, should have told you earlier…Am really sorry I won’t be able to attend, but circumstances won’t cooperate right now…I will be sending a card with Sue…Hope everything goes well and the day goes well…Talk to you later”
This is the second uncle this week who, after RSVPing yes a month ago decides to inform my parents that they aren’t coming! Not even telling me, telling my parents. This uncle is my mother’s brother and I have never been close to, but still.
The other uncle who did this is my dad’s brother, the only person from my dad’s side living, whose wedding I attended earlier this year even though it wasn’t convenient or cheap!
Post # 3
Oh I’m sorry they won’t attend 🙁
Post # 4
Bastards! Both of ’em! But more cake for you!
Post # 5
Oh that’s sad to hear, it probably wasn’t that he was trying to be intentionally hurtful though. Sometimes life just gets in the way of the things that we really want to do.
Post # 6
The only thing I can say to you is, what really matters in the end is the people who do take the effort to be there and support you.
I had an uncle who lives about 25 hours away and who I hadn’t seen in 5 years or so drive down 2 weeks early for my wedding. He visited all my family that was 1.5 hours from me and then decided he was tired and drove home about 4 days before my wedding, not even stopping by to see me or my mom (his sister) and letting my other aunt and uncle break the news. I was so hurt by his actions. In the end though, the people that were there were there because they love me and wanted to be there. I am really sorry that though that you are hurting now – you won’t even realize they are not there the day of the wedding you will be having so much fun 🙂
Post # 7
Yep I’ve had 4 dropouts recently. It’s such a bummer every time! These were people who’d RSVPed originally too.
Post # 8
@DaniSue13: I’m sorry to hear that. Though I have had two folks in my family who RSVPd yes, but then had to change. (It was business related for one, and then health related for another.) Just try not to let it get under your skin. And put yourself in the other’s shoes, if you can. I know it’s easier said than done.