Post # 1
To save for a new car and a house we’re down sizeing. That means leaving our 2/2 1000sq foot apt for a smaller place. We found a 1/1 with a fireplace that felt large- but how can we logiscticly do it? Our son only sleeps in his room, the toys are tored there but he’s in the living room with us until bed time.
- Put a toddler bed at the foot of our bed and make him a special “Toy Area” in the space between the dining room and living room
- Put up room dividers and make his own “room” in the dining room area that we don’t use now and most likely won’t use then either
- pay the $100 more and get the 2 bedroom.
I know $100 doesn’t sound like a lot, but that’s our pg&e bill. We cancelled cable, payed off the credit cards and are moving closer to work. Total saving for everything is about $500. After we save enough for a down payment on a house and a car, we’d be able to afford the car payment without sacraficing our quality of life. Every little bit counts!
Ideas/suggestions? The bigger apartment is much bigger (500 sq feet bigger not including the extra bathroom) that we just don’t need. It would be bigger to heat and cool and doesn’t come with a fireplace like the 1 bedroom.
Also Sexy!Time: how are we gonna work it? Only in the shower? Ideas on THAT would be good too.
Post # 3
@MissFireFlower: I honestly can’t imagine having a toddler sleeping in the same room as me. For any extended length of time. I would just pay the extra to give him his own room, or put him in the dining room, and not have a dining room.
Post # 4
pay 100 more. agreed with the kid growing up without his own space. and the hamper on YOUR private time- vanishes if you don’t get the 2nd bedroom
Post # 5
we’d be able to afford the car payment without sacraficing our quality of life
i think trying to share a bedroom with a 4yr is sacrificing your quality of life and not being respectful to him – get the 2nd bedroom or convert the dining room to his bedroom
Post # 6
I think you should convert the dining room into his room. You said you don’t really use it, and maybe you can even squeeze a table into the living room to have an “officia”l place to eat? I think it’s great that you’re so focused on reaching your goals and I think living in a smaller home is doable, especially if it’s not forever! Just try not to compromise your “sexy time” not too much, happy parents make a happy kid!
Post # 7
I agree with the other previous posters. If it was a baby that would be different. I just imagine if you were all sharing a room it might put stress on your relationship with your husband and I think it would feel like you never got any alone time, not just sexy time, but it’s kind of like getting a break when you are in your own room! I know a $100 is a lot when you are trying to save everything but I just think it would be better to have to save longer and be happier in the meantime ;)Good luck with what ever choice you make!
Post # 8
$100 for 500 extra sq ft including a 2nd bedroom seems like a no brainer to me. I have a 3 yr old and I cannot imagine her not having her own room. It’s good for kids to have their privacy and be independent. My daughter plays in her room by herself all the time. I can’t even imagine how cluttered my house would feel if I had to make room for all my daughter’s toys and clothes in another room. And we have a 1500 sq ft house! I honestly don’t think it’s fair to your son to have him give up a room for $100 a month. If it were an emergency situation then obviously do what you have to do but it sounds like you’re just trying to downscale to save for future expenses.
Post # 9
We live in a 1bd with out two year old and it’s ok – but we’re actively trying to find a place with 2 bds in our budget. She has a bed in our room and we keep her toys (mostly) in the living room. I know a couple who lives in a studio with their 4 year old! First things first, you need to ask the apartment owners if it is legal for you to live three to a room. At my current apartment we are only allowed to share a room until her third birthday due to the size of the room. At another apartment we looked at it was illegal for her to be in our room. Each apartment makes their own rules.
Post # 10
Sorry, I have to say that it’s unfair to the child to be sharing a bedroom with you two. I voted for getting the two bedroom.
Post # 11
Fiance and I and my son share a room. We are cramped and looking to buy, but for the time being we have to make it work. Its a pain and if we had the other bedroom we’d be set, however since we are looking to buy, moving into a 2BR temporarily doesn’t make sense.
Post # 12
My sister and her husband currently share a bedroom with all THREE of their children. It’s a weird situation I won’t get into but I will tell you that your child will go completely stir crazy with that little room to himself. Her children are constantly on top of eachother and it’s really crazy to see how they act when they come to our home. They barely spend any time near one another. He needs a place of his own just like you or your husband would. I think if you think you can make it work to make the dining room into his bedroom you could try it but I think that would be really awkward if you ever had friends over.
How long are you planning to live like this?
Post # 13
Is there a dining room or other kind of out of the way space that you could somewhat block off into a bedroom? Americans are pretty spoiled on their square footage, but this is something families used to do all the time. I don’t think it’s unfair to your child, he’s pretty young. He needs very little to be happy, lol. I’m more concerned about the your private time/space, but you gotta do what’s best for you long-term. How long were you thinking of doing this for?
Post # 14
I think if you can block the living room into his “room” then it would be fine. You have to do what you have to do !
Post # 15
I can’t imagine sharing a room with my three year old. Once in awhile she sleeps in bed with me, but I wouldn’t want her in there every night. I know what it’s like to have zero money , but sometimes you need to think of yourself and your sanity. I think I’d rather save longer and you and your husband and son have your own spaces. Even if you spend a lot of time together in the living room, it’s definitely nice to be able to close his door after he goes to sleep and have your own time. The dining room sounds like a nice idea, but it seems like it would get tricky if you had company or if you, say, wanted to watch a movie in the living room. I think I’d feel like I had to walk on eggshells so I didn’t wake him up.
Post # 16
I think you should give your son the bedroom and make the dining room your bedroom. This way your son won’t be bothered by noise from the living room if you are up later than he is watching tv, talking or doing anything else.