(Closed) How can we handle this +1 issue?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

A lot of people, if unsure about whether they can bring an extra, add the +1 to the response card and assume you’ll tell them if it’s not OK.  IMO that puts you in a tough situation because now you have to decide whether to accommodate or push back.

I got two +1’s that I wasn’t expecting, and what I did was wait until most of my RSVP’s came back and saw that there were enough declines so I could accommodate the extra +1’s.  That way I didn’t even have to bring it up with those guests.

If at all possible, try to fit this extra person in.  If it turns out you don’t have enough declines and simply can’t take an extra guest, then just tell FI’s coworker that you’re sorry you weren’t able to invite him to bring a guest, and given your space and budget limitations and current guest count, you won’t be able to accommodate his extra guest.

Post # 4
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im in Vienna too! 🙂 Not getting married here but live a mile from Tysons! Anyways I would wait until you see what your numbers are like the other poster said. If you have room to accommodate the +1 then go for it and if not then you will just have to politely say that you don’t have the space!

Post # 5
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with the other posters that you should wait it out and see if you can accommodate. In the meantime, though, your Fiance should probably deal with the question of whether the friend is expecting any kind of payment. You never know what some people’s idea of “helping out” is.

Post # 7
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well if he is doing it for really cheap or practically free, it wouldn’t be too much to ask to bring a date. Now if you are paying full price…no plus 1.

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