Post # 1
OK so My Fiance woudl like 5 guys as his groomsmen, including my brother. I am including his sister, and my best friend. So that leaves 3 spots to fill. The problem is that I have 4 best fireds, all really good firends with me and my best friend, and I don’t know how to choose. All of the girl friends I’ve mentioned are from high school. I’ve also heard of ladies choosing one close friend from each time in their life, so I could do his sister, my bf from high school, a good friend from college, and a good friend from post-college life. I also just feel like the more people you include, the more people have their feelings hurt for being excluded. So I was originally thinking just my bestie and his sister. Help! How did you choose? Is it better to have one or two or a ton? I want ot include everyone but I odn’t want an army at the alter-we’re not having a huge wedding. Thanks ladies!!!
Post # 3
I don’t see why you can’t have them all. I have seen more uneven bridal parties than I have even ones.
Post # 4
If its just for the sake of ONE person that would be left out or hurt, I would say have them all. If you’re Fiance can’t come up with another groomsman, who cares! If they are all equal friends, think of how hurt the left out one would be. Either that, or just have the bf and sister if your Fiance can narrow it down to two as well. Good luck!
Post # 5
Take a deep breath, and remember – your wedding is a party where you share the beginning of your marital life with the people closest to you. It is not a performance. Have the people who really matter. Who cares if you have eight or only two best friends, good for you for developing those relationship with people who can share this moment with you!
My husband had two groomsmen, and I had three. These are the girls I know I can always count on and have been there for me time after time. It would be a cold day in hell before I kicked any of them out because “the numbers were not even.” That is just silly.
Post # 6
Yeah just ask them all. I had this problem too and in the end I asked all four and DH added a person to his side.
Post # 7
Less is better. Pick the ones that will be the most accomodating.
Post # 8
without really thinking about it, I ended up picking my bestie from HS, bestie from college and bestie from the working world. It worked out nicely. Do what makes you happy:)