(Closed) How to tell boss you are job hunting? (cancer & work)

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
47292 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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MsTargaryen:  Your primary duty is to do hat is best for you and your Darling Husband. Do you have 3 other professional references you could give? Remember you should ask permission to use them, not tell them after.

I would apply for the job, tell them you have left off your current employer and ask them not to contact your current employer, unless you are the successful candidate. You can then ask your boss if they are willing top act as a reference and give the info to your potential new employer.

Many employers don’t even bother to contact past employers because it’s such a waste of time. Many employers give out no detailed information. They will only say whether or not they would rehire the person.

Post # 3
9524 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Work is work, personal life is personal life. You cannot put off your priorities because your boss is facing personal challanges. A professional would understand that you cannot wait around.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by  theatrejulia.
Post # 4
5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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MsTargaryen:  Leave your current employer off your references list. I feel that is typical for most people – most people dont tell their employers until they’ve accepted another job.

I understand feeling guilty & bad – but you can’t wait around because of someone else’s challenge. Instead, if you get a new position, see what you can do to make it easier for your boss during the transition (perhaps they need you to stay for a month to train someone new, etc.).

I just think the job market is so unpredictable that you shouldn’t tell anyone until you’ve signed an offer/contract with a new position. It could take you 3-6 months to find a new job. 

Post # 5
4238 posts
Honey bee


I agree with the PPs and do what’s best for you/your family.

It’s perfectly reasonable to expect a current employer to not be contacted by a prospective employer. In fact, if I clarified that they are not to be contacted without my consent, and they contacted them anyway, I’d not take the new job.

Just my $0.02.


Post # 6
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I disagree I say tell them so they have more time to prepare for you leaving. If you have a close enough relationship that they e can tell you about cancer than they deserve the warning. 

You need to do what’s best for you but I wouldn’t blindside your current boss.

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