(Closed) How can you tell if someone dislike you as a person?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

barnes66:  everyone is different so there isn’t one right answer to this question.

I am someone who doesn’t hid emotion well so you can tell very obviously that I don’t like someone even if I don’t say it because I don’t do well faking it. However my sister is polite and bubbly to everyone and you would never guess when she doesn’t care too much for someone.

with that said, my answer would be to continue being polite to this person and if they feel as though they dislike you enough to not want to be around you, they will remove themselves but this shouldn’t be a reason for you to behave any differently. don’t give it too much thought. That’s general advice without knowing specifically what caused you to ask this question.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Is this is the same coworker who you told you would bring to your Church with you?

If so, just let her be. If not, I’d still let her be.

There are people in this world who won’t like you — some may have reasons, some may have no reasons at all. You just have to accept that and carry on.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Sounds like she doesn’t like you. I would just give her space and find someone else to befriend.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

TheGridMonster:  THIS. Life is too short to care who likes you. My motto: “if they aren’t paying my bills, their opinion doesn’t matter!” 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

barnes66:  Unless she’s your boss, don’t worry about it. I’m sure you have better things to be spending your time and energy on than getting someone to like you. Just be nice and polite to her. People who see you being polite to her and her being short with you will tend to see her as the problem and jump to their own opinions about her…personal experience. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Seems like she’s not interested in being your friend, which you should respect and move forward.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

barnes66:  However i nevr had any conflict with this this co worker in my OP.I have always had a negetive vibe from her from the start.I never did anything

You don’t have to do anything wrong for someone not to want your friendship, it happens sometimes.  Let her be.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

barnes66:  I second PP that it’s just part of life that not everyone you meet will like you. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. As long as they aren’t doing anything to hurt you, just choose not to care. Focus your energy on those who do like you.

Another thing — based on your update, this is clearly someone who works in your office. In an office, people are hired to do their job — not to be your friend. Doing a job in an office environment involves professional and sometimes friendly decorum, sure, but people should not be expected to go beyond that with every person in the office.

I feel like, these days, a lot of people have come to expect built in friendships out of their coworkers, and it’s really not a good (or productive!) expectation to have. You will probably be happier if you shift your perspective to view work as work, and outside social time as the time for growing friendships. If friendsips naturally materialize in the office, great! you have a little added bonus to your day. But if not, fine. Do your job, then leave and have your social needs met outside the workplace.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

barnes66:  Is it important that she likes you?

A lot of people don’t like me, and I’m sure a good handful hates my guts. And that’s ok!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

You don’t like everybody do you? So can’t expect everyone to like you, even as fabulous as you may be. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

She might not actively dislike you but it sounds like she doesn’t particularly like you. as PPs have said, find someone else to befriend. its normal for people to dislike you or even really, really hate your guts. Who cares? just march to the beat of your own drummer and embrace the people who “get” you 

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