(Closed) How can you tell when it’s The One?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i was able to tell because after i tried it on, every dress after was compared to it.  also, i always took pictures and went home to examine them after.  the dress i ended up getting was pretty much the only dress i liked more and more each time i looked at it rather than finding stuff wrong with it.  finally, after a week of agonizing, i realized i started calling it “my” dress. so finally i ordered it and was done with the search!

Post # 4
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t have a lightning-strike moment. It went kind of like this…

Day one of dress shopping: totally overwhelmed, tired, feeling gross from squeezing into so many different dresses. Fortunately I had a lot of pictures. The woman that helped me told me to take a week and think about my top 3.  There were a ton of pretty dresses.

The thinking time actually helped a lot. I kept coming back to one dress.

Day two of dress shopping: three weeks later, I pulled my top three again, AND THEN ignored the advice of others and tried a bunch more… because I figured, when will I get a chance to do this again? Among the “bunch more” was one I had discarded the first go-round. When I came out, it made my future Mother-In-Law & SIL cry 

It also looked great with the style of veil I wanted.

Then I spent another half hour going between that and my previous top choice. Because the dresses were virtually the same cut and weight, and were both very comfortable, it came down to budget (there was a decent price difference) and how I thought the dress would look in photos. It was a pretty calculated decision in that regard.

So there was no “OMG this is THE one” moment like I see on all the shows. But I’m also not really that kind of person. I am very, very happy with the dress I chose.

Post # 5
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I didn’t have an OMG this is the one moment either.  I had a general idea of what I was looking for and quickly narrowed it down to a couple of dresses.  When I closed my eyes and imagined myself walking in the church, it was in THE dress.  That was my answer.

And, FWIW, I only tried on about 6 dresses?  But, I am generally very decisive.

Post # 6
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I knew because I didn’t want to take it off 🙂

Post # 7
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I knew when there was the possibility that we wouldn’t be able to get it and I was crushed.  I remember telling my Maid/Matron of Honor that I was having to go through a break up with my dress haha

Post # 8
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i had a similar effect where i could picture myself in the dress and i kept talking about – like “making plans” with it.

Post # 9
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I knew my dress was the one from the moment I plucked it from the rack. I didn’t even have to take it out of the bag, I just knew. I must have tried on 15 gowns before this one and finally when I got to try it on I was beaming. I couldn’t stop smiling for the rest of the day. I think about it ALL THE TIME.

Post # 10
553 posts
Busy bee

I tried on dozens of dresses and felt awkward and uncomfortable. I have never been one for dress up and never even went to prom, so wedding dress shopping felt a bit silly to me. I continuously believed that the dresses were nice, but not me, until I tried “her” on. I originally noticed her on the rack, but avoided her because she had color and the fiance wanted white. I then saw her on another bride while trying on dresses that were really bridal and lovely, but not so great on me. She called to me and I had to try her. Once I did, she just felt right. She wasn’t flashy. She wasn’t typical, but she was ME. I didn’t want to take my eyes off of her in the mirror or take her off and I felt as gorgeous as a celebrity walking the red carpet into the Grammy’s! Ha. Everyone in the shop was watching and making comments about how perfect she was for me and how amazing she looked and this time, I believed them. I definitely didn’t cry or scream or faint or anything, but I felt at home in her…comfortable, beautiful, and myself. It doesn’t matter what others think or how beautiful the dress is on the hanger or another bride. It’s about how the dress makes you feel, compared to the others. She just fit like a glove (even though she was 3 sizes too big!) because she was my style, my taste, my cup of tea. She wasn’t adorned with a thousand crystals or a price tag that would have thrown me into debt, either. Oh, and I was so excited to accessorize her, where the other traditional gowns left me feeling unsure and overwhelmed just considering how to decorate them. Sometimes we notice what others like and what seems to be the trend in fashion, because that is what is smeared across bridal magazines, tv, and the runway, but be sure to give the exclusives and the up and comers a chance because they might really surprise you! Best of luck! Post what you love for us to see! 🙂 

Post # 11
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  When I went to try on dresses, I thought I knew exactly what I wanted. I told the consultant what I had dreamed about, and then I told her that I had two non-negotiables: I wanted an A-line dress with a corset back. She could bring anything else to me. I thought I wanted something that was incredibly beaded all over the corset. I ended up getting the first dress I tried on (though I tried on at least 15 after it). It had a little bling, but it also had a good balance of plain, and the rouching really helped to slim me down. I had an ear-to-ear grin when trying it on. I didn’t have the crying moment (which I thought was supposed to happen), but I felt gorgeous and beautiful in that dress. That was how I knew it was my dress.

Post # 12
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I like many of the PP didn’t have a definite crying moment, but I did feel something.

After weeks of shopping and trying on tons of dresses a fabulous local boutique decided to switch things up and put me in a dress that wasn’t what I was looking for (dropped waist ballgown, tons of beading and no pick ups). The moment I put it up to my body I felt a little wow moment and it took my breath away, but even then I wasn’t sure. I ended up trying on a few more dresses after “the” dress and didn’t feel the same. I put my dress on and I just had that feeling again.

Despite that feeling I still wasn’t sure about my purchase. I went to try on dresses last week and ended up comparing all of them to my dress. I think that is when you know you have the one. When no other dresses compare than you found it.

Post # 13
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I knew I’d found The One when I put on the dress that had everything I was looking for and nothing I didn’t like.  I didn’t cry in this dress, but when I stepped out my cousin and mom knew – this was it.  I did too, this was the dress I kept comparing all others too, so it made sense that this was The One!  I can’t wait to wear it.

Post # 14
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You know, I scoffed at the idea that I would have a big “moment” when I found my dress. I had tried on about 20 dresses, and looked at about 5,000 online. No joke. And out of all of them, not a single one even sparked my interest.

Then, I happened to be in a dress shop, and I saw it. I was stunned. I couldn’t believe that it was just hanging there, like it wasn’t the most perfect dress ever created(haha).

I practically turned a somersault to get it on, and when I looked in the mirror, I felt tears wellling up. And I knew.


So, from a skeptic, I think that, when you find the one, the dress, it will just strike you. And you’ll know.

Post # 15
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I definitely didn’t have the “YES!” moment when I first put it on.  No crying or shreiking.  However, I did love it when I put it on.  I tried it on at the first place I went dress shopping.. it wasn’t the first dress I tried on there, it was actually the last (of about 10).  I liked several of the other dresses I tried on that day as well.  When I was at the store I was unsure of which one was my favorite, however when I left the store, I kept thinking about that one particular dress.  Thinking back now, I couldn’t even tell you what the other dresses I tried on looked like.

I went to several other stores and tried on other dresses, but kept thinking about the one from the first store I went to.  I found another one they everyone who was with my (my mom, my sister and my bf) absolutely loved and all said it was their favorite so far.  However, I STILL kept thinking about that one dress.  So we left that shop and went directly to the other store so I could try the dress on again while the other was still fresh in my mind.

I put it on and immediately loved it again, but standing in front of the mirror I was still trying to decide which one I liked better.  Apparently my family/friends could see it on my face because they all said they could tell I definitely liked this dress more than the other.  They all said they thought it was a beautiful dress and that it was definitely the one for me.

Post # 16
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I asked the sales lady if I could marry the dress. I couldn’t stop looking at myself in the mirror, swishing and giggling the entire time. I didn’t want to take it off. And when I called my Dad to tell him about it, he could hear the excitement in my voice, which made him get all choked up. Game Over.

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