Post # 62
I don’t think there is such a thing as “too cheap”. My first engagement ring (a CZ stand-in) cost £25 and I love it so much because we picked it together after he proposed. Having said that, I will admit that I appreciate the fact that he spent more on my “forever” ring than he did on his beloved AppleMac computer 😉 I did a lot of research and found my dream ring in his budget though so we were both happy!
Post # 63
Hang on… a thought just occurred to me… how do you guys even know how much your rings cost?
I only know by accident because I file FI’s financial papers for him, and I saw the invoice. I didn’t do it on purpose.
I initially answered this question hypothetically, because we had talked about getting married and he kept saying that he would get me a huge ring, and I kept saying that I wouldn’t wear it. I suggested that he give me a kitten or a puppy instead, LOL!
So… hang on… HOW do you know? Do you ask once he gives the ring to you? Does the ring come with papers? Does he tell you? Do you choose it together? If you choose it together, how does he propose? Does he propose with a fake ring, or what?
Post # 64
honestly i really do not think there is such a thing as too cheap, it also depends on where you live. In my country we have a lot of minerals and therefore you can get jewelry for ridicculous prices. My lovely ring cost $50 and i didn’t want him to lose sleep paying for the ring. an expensive ring doesn’t ensure a superb marriage you know
Post # 65
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
As long as the couple is happy there is nothing too cheap (or too expensive I guess).
My financial situation means that if I got proposed to soon I’m expecting about £100-£150 to be spent on it (it would be nice to own something that’s worth over £100). When I naughtily browse rings online I won’t even let myself look at the ones that cost most than that haha.
Honestly wearing anything that cost more than say… £300? Would make me feel really uncomfortable XD But to a lot of people that isn’t very much at all. Is all relative ^^
Post # 66
My e-ring will only cost around 1 weeks salary, we worked out it would take us 3 years to save up if he were to spend 3 months salary and its half the price of our house deposit lol.
I see comments from other bees saying they dont wear their e-rings out because it cost so much and they dont wear them abroad or feel uncomfortable with it which i think is terrible, no offence at all to the bees who didnt get a say in it and would have preferred a cheaper ring but what is the point of having a $100,000 ring only to sit in a jewellery box instead of where it belongs on your finger??
I dont wear any type of jewellery i dont even have my ears pierced so i wouldnt like to have expensive jewellery but i want my e-ring to be well made because i am clumsy and would probably bash it on walls and things so too cheap for me would be a ring that would fall apart or something that looks dirty, a friend of mine has a cheap ring and the day after she got it it looked horribly grey (it was white gold) and the diamond looked cloudy it was a bit pointless to get a ring like that but thats just my opinion.
sorry for the long post but i feel quite strongly that people should wear their engagement rings not keep them hidden away just because they cost alot, if you cant be seen with it for fear of being mugged you spent way too much!!
Post # 67
As far as I am concerned you don’t need a ring to get engaged or married.
That being said, I would never tell my husband what he could and could not spend on an item like this. If he has the money for it and does not go into debt, have at it.
Post # 68
@Rachel631: My Fiance proposed without a ring while we were travelling. It was perfect. Then 2 days later we bought a stand-in until we got a more durable “forever” ring. When we got home, Fiance said how much he was happy spending and I hunted around looking for options. We went to a jeweller’s together and narrowed down our choice. So I was very much aware of prices throughout the process, but believe it or not that didn’t make it any less romantic for me since were already engaged and celebrating with our families. Then when the ring came he got down on one knee again in a public park with the ring box, it was v exciting 🙂
Post # 69
@deetroitwhat: I agree. I adore my engagement ring and I will admit I would have been disappointed not to get one. But I have a friend who got married last year and she never had an e-ring. It always confuses me when bees say you have to have a ring or you’re not engaged. Clearly my friend’s engagement was real and no less serious than anyone else’s.
Post # 70
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Don’t forget preference! Sometimes the future bride has a say on what she thinks should be spent. There are more money conscious ladies that would prefer less than 1k and others that want the biggest rocksthey can afford. Personally for me i would prefer 1-5k which coincidentally is around 2-3 months salary, though i would be thrilled if i fell in love with something cheaper.
Post # 71
@MaidMarian: Two words for you: PAWN SHOP. I’ve got several near me, and one of them is really good. I can’t believe I just discovered them. They are awesome for second hand, good value jewellery.
Makes sense. Thanks for the reply. Am I in the minority then? He just bought a nice ring and gave it to me… he’s quite traditional. Like I said, I would have been happy with my family ring, or even a kitten/puppy instead!
Post # 72
@Rachel631: I LOVE the sound of an engagement kitten! Sadly my Fiance is allergic… No, I don’t think you’re in the minority at all. I think lots of men take their gf’s sister or best friend ring shopping, for example. Although both my mum and Future Mother-In-Law picked out their own rings too so in our families the way we did it was fairly normal and no one batted an eyelid 😉
Post # 73
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
@Rachel631: I found one not too long ago while shopping in town with mum. The rings were gorgous, still a little more than I’d like to spend, there was one in particular that I just loved. I’m also lucky that mum has a few heirloom rings stashed away that she’d be willing to give me in case of getting engaged (I’d just have to get them fixed a little).
Older jewlery really is magical isn’t it? 🙂 Unfortunately I think I’ll have very little say in what goes on my finger but I know BF well enough to know that he’ll be sensible when the time comes XD
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@beb1972: This. It’s not about how much he makes, it’s about how much he spends on other stuff and what thought goes into the purchase.
If he regularly buys himself $1000 electronic toys or car parts or something, and he gets me a $40 ring, I’d be upset because it seems selfish. But even if he makes a lot, but we don’t spend much and he is overall generous, a less expensive ring is fine.
Also it depends on your personality and preferences and if you’ve talked about this already.
Post # 76
@MissStumptown: +1 I’m also wearing a $400 ring and I love it. I picked it and it’s totally “me”. I’ll love it forever.
I voted 0.5, but only because 0.001 wasn’t an option. I think it the ring you want is $2 from a vending machine that’s just fine. People should wear what they like.