(Closed) How close did you have or do you want your children?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How many years apart?
    Irish Twins : (11 votes)
    7 %
    Less than 2 yrs : (35 votes)
    23 %
    2-3 yrs : (63 votes)
    41 %
    3-4 yrs : (31 votes)
    20 %
    4-5 yrs : (7 votes)
    5 %
    Only Child : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My plan is 2 kids, around 4 years apart. At 4, they are out of diapers and a little more self sufficient and can help mommy with the new baby in little ways! I know a few people with “irirsh twins”, or very close to it, and I just can’t imagine that! 2 kids in diapers both completely relying on you all of the time…that just sounds stressful to me! Also I think because 2 is my limit, it’ll be better for me to spread it apart. That way 4 years later I’m sure ill have baby fever again…I don’t want my babies to be grown up at pretty much the same time! I don’t want myself to think “we’ll maybe we should have a third” lol. 

    Post # 5
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Good question, we are having our first in May, so we’ll definitely want to see how having one goes before we decide! I don’t want them too far apart in age, but at the same time now that I know what being pregnant is like I cannot even begin to imagine dealing with the horrendous morning sickness and general exhaustion I had for months while chasing after a toddler! I’m really not sure.

    Post # 6
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    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think it depends on how long it takes me to get pregnant. I’m 27, would like my first kid by 29-30 and my second kid by like 33 because my Fiance is 10 years older than I am so we don’t want to wait too long. So it has less to do with how far apart in age we want our kids to be, but more with our lives and ages. Hopefully it will work out!

    Post # 7
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    4582 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d ideally like to be done having babies by 35 and I’ll turn 30 right around my due date for baby #1. So I’m thinking we’ll start trying again when our daughter is about 12 – 18 months old. I want to give my body a bit of a break after my first pregnancy but I don’t want to wait too long… just in case we decide to go for #3. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Depends on how long it takes to get to a point where we can start making them, but idealy I’d like them close together.  Fiance and his sibling are really close together, and at first it seemed absolutely crazy, but his mom pointed out that you get through the ‘gross’ stuff all at once, then you NEVER have to go back to diapers, potty training, etc ever again (unless you have another when they’re a bit older, an option I’d like to have open but again, depends on how long it takes us to get to the baby-making point)

    Post # 9
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    7527 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My daughters are 8 years apart.  I know most people would not think this is ideal, and i didn’t think that would be how my life would turn out.  But I would not change it for anything.  When I overhear from the other room my older daughter reading to my younger daughter I know that their relationship is a sweet one.  They love each other so much- and they will never fight about the same clothes or boys or toys.

    Post # 10
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    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My sister and I are 18 mos apart and I really appreciated that. I think it was easier on my parents too in the sense that we were going through things at similar times (just get all the diapers, driving lessoms etc out of the way than having to repeat it!! Lol)

    Post # 11
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    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m undecided. Some days I think I would love the challenge of having them really close together and watching them grow up so close in age, but other days I don’t think I want to just get the baby stage “over with”. Kids grow up so fast so maybe I do want them spaced apart. I’m due in August so I really can’t say for sure how I’ll feel before LO is actually here. On average we’ll probably wait between 1 and 2 1/2 years before trying again. What are you leaning towards?

    Post # 12
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    More than Irish twins, less than 2 years. I have a cousin who has Irish twins and she made me swear up and down I would keep my legs closed after #1 is born 😉 She loves her kids to no end, but she said having them so close together was a huge mistake, it was just too much work (and I consider her super mom!).

    Post # 13
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    6699 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

    I don’t know too much about baby stages, but I prefer them close in age. We are all more than 4 years apart, and I don’t think I can relate as much with my younger brothers. Ideally, 2-2.5 years apart for me. Also because of the age I will be with #1 (around 30) and not wanting to have kids after 35 ish. We want 3 kids… finger crossed.

    Post # 14
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    3173 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would like mine about a year and half to two years apart

    Post # 15
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    6222 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I said 2-3 years but my Fiance i think will want them sooner… We’ll see what happens!

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