Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I have somewhat of seperation anxiety — I always want to be somewhat near my parents. But they are going to retire in another country, and leave me here in the states. If/when they go, I’d love to move to be closer to Mr. Peng’s parents, since my parents will be ditching us.
What about you? Do you live/intend to live close to your parents after marriage? If you moved away, is it hard or easier on you? I know sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. Admittedly, I am frustrated with my parents a lot but the plusses of living near them outweigh the negatives. They ask us to do stuff a lot on the weekends, and there always seems to be an "occasion"… birthday, birthday, mothers day, fathers day, my birthday, mr pengs birthday, etc, etc, etc. They always want us to do stuff with them… sometimes I don’t see our house on the weekend for weeks! But they do it out of love, so it’s ok 🙂
I work with my dad, so I see my parents 5 days a week. Probably more than most.
How close do you live to your parents? How often do you see them? Is it good or bad for your relationship with your FI/husband?
Post # 3
Are they selling houses on the moon yet?
Post # 4
Like you, we both are very close to our families. After graduation, we both moved about an hour away from our parents to continue school. Since then, my parents have moved to a town about 40 minutes in the opposite direction from where we are. With the wedding and my completion of graduate school, we are looking to move. We will probably stay near our families, as we enjoy being close enough to join them for an outing or event, but far enough away that we aren’t expected to join them for everything! Also, my fiance’s father passed away about 8 years ago, and he doesn’t want to be too far from his mom, in case she needs him; he’s taken on the role of man of the house, even though he hasn’t been in the house for years! As soon as I decide where I’d like to work, we’ll begin the house hunting, but I’m sure it will be within a few hours of each of our families!
Post # 5
I sympathize completely! We each live within 3 blocks of my mother right now (crazy I know) and we see her all the time. It is wonderful and I have huge anxiety about us moving very far away. However, we did move to another city for 6 months and it was the best thing that could have ever happened to our relationship! There is something about that forced separation that really made us love each other’s company that much more.
Post # 6
We don’t live too far from my mom or dad, like a 10 minute drive to either of their houses, but they don’t really bother so we are fine with it. The hubs’ parents live about 15-20 minutes away and we love it like that. They like to unexpectadly drop by at times and it gets annoying because sometimes you aren’t decent enough for a visit or you aren’t in the mood. If we let him, my Father-In-Law would probably stop by on a daily basis because he works so close. When we move to the city we’ve been house shopping again, we are hoping it’s far enough out of the way that the just popping in won’t keep happening.
Post # 7
My family lives halfway across the country. His family lives about two hours from us, but due to special circumstances I won’t go into, we see them maybe once every year or two. I’m very, very close to my family, and yes, a lot of the time I wish they lived closer, but on the other hand, when we do go visit we have no other responsibilities to distract us from spending time with my family. I haven’t lived near them in over nine years, so I’m used to the separation, and as far as the amount of distance goes, I rationalize that once you’re a flight away, it doesn’t really matter how far away you are — I mean, you know, it would obviously be different if we moved to Hong Kong or Australia!