(Closed) How close is too close? (family weddings)

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That doesn’t sound too close to me, but it’s between you and your boyfriend and your brother and Future Sister-In-Law. Why don’t you and your boyfriend talk about having a wedding in the spring? If you don’t want a long engagement, that could work.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think if you were to do that you might lose some people that won’t be able to fly, drive, take off time for both your brother and your wedding.

But if you don’t think that would be an issue for any of your guests, I don’t think it would be too huge of a deal.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

I think the dates are too close for a Sep-Nov wedding.  Given the financial concerns and rush of not wanting Spring 2010, I’d put it off til Spring 2011.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i wouldnt put my wedding off for anyone!!!   if you have family having to travel great distances then i guess thats a consideration but you know what, when my hubby and i got engaged i was ready to begin our life now and not in 1 or 2yrs from that point.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Well, money is certainly something to consider. We started talking seriously about getting married last May, then officially engaged in October, then our wedding was the following May. Meanwhile, my little brother proposed and his wedding is this October, exactly 6 months after mine.

We did pay for everything ourselves except the rehearsal dinner, but we’d been saving almost a year at that point and had a small wedding. You’ll probably have cool weather through Memorial Day, so that gives you 7 months from now … Let me tell you this, too, if you want to do a lot with your wedding, take a longer engagement. You won’t regret it unless you’re expecting some really big change to come with getting married.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it is that close! Each couple has a day not a month or a season!!

The only concern is guest overlap and it being too much of a burden on them. If you are ok with some people choosing their wedding over yours and/or not getting as many gifts due to financial burden of overlapping guests – I say GO FOR IT!

If you think that they will be offended if you just announce your date (some people think having a wedding a month apart is stealing their thunder) – talk to them about it first if they think it through logically they shouldn’t be offended and it could be fun to plan stuff together!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios

As long as your brother is ok with it, I think a September wedding is fine. You might lose some guests on your fiance’s side because they’d probably be more obligated to attend the mother’s wedding. Another option is to marry in November, so you’re not stealing anyone’s thunder by getting married before them.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

If I had a choice of picking the month between 2 family weddings or waiting an extra almost 2 years to be with my FI- I’d choose the first. I don’t think a wedding in mid-late September is too much. I say go for it πŸ™‚

Congrats on the pending engagement! Isn’t it exciting?!

Post # 14
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Newbee

You also don’t necessarily have to decide the date now. You could figure out where you want to have it (if you haven’t), and then see what dates work best. That could be a factor anyway. If you have decided already, I’d say check with the guests that you definitely have to have there. After that, go what you and your fiance want most.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Church & The Engine Room at Georgetown Studios

don’t worry about it- I am assuming mom has been married before and i hate to say it but to many guest a second marriage shouldn’t be as big of a deal. but I don’ know the specifics.  We are getting married next july- my fiance’s sister got married last july and his brother is getting married next May- we figured july- just two months away was fine. I would be more concerned with spacing your date (when he proposes) from your brothers august wedding than his mother’s wedding

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

a couple get’s a day, not a week,not a month, not a season.  I think as long as you don’t get married within like 2 weeks of the other weddings, you should be fine.  Perhaps a late october or early november wedding?

Also, there is no way I would put of getting married by a year just to make sure someone else has a wedding season.

Congrats on the upcoming engagement!

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