Post # 1
There are 3 grandchildren in my family (even though my Mom has 3 siblings, that’s just how it worked out). We are all girls and within 3 years apart, and… we might all get married in 2014!!
My little sister is getting married first- I will be her Maid/Matron of Honor and I am so excited and happy for her. She has been engaged for 3 years already and will finally be tying the knot May 10, 2014 in Northern California.
I got engaged in March and my fiance wants to get married ASAP!! Trying to set a date and not cause drama/rock the boat! We live in SoCal, about a 10 hour drive from my sister (making it hard to have the weddings in the same weekend). Our family is SPREAD OUT, and will all be traveling great distances to attend weddings. Our mother’s side of the family is all in Hawaii and our Dad’s side of the family lives in the midwest- so most people will have a 3-5 hour flight. Plane tickets are soo expensive, and we would like to have our family attend both of our weddings so it is not a financial burden. I’d like to get married outside, and luckily I live in San Diego where the weather stays nice later in the year than most places. My fiance thinks we should try for November 2014- the chance of rain is 10-14% from what I have seen on Farmer’s Almanac (FI assures me that is low but I’ve never been a gambler so it worries me it will rain). Is 6 months enough of a buffer between weddings? Or should we wait until 2015? I will be having my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and my cousin will be a bridesmaid.
My cousin and her boyfriend are ring shopping and planning on getting engaged soon. I will probably also be her Maid/Matron of Honor because we have always been really close and she is an only child. She asked me today if it would be okay if she could get married a week before me or a week after me- then our family could come from Hawaii and catch both weddings in the same trip., especially since my sister is getting married earlier that year and we both live in SoCal. She also wants to get married outside, so we would have to keep that in mind. She said if it would not work, she could wait and get married in 2015.
We’d have to work out a plan and coordinate bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and honeymoons of course- what do you think bees? Has anyone else ever done this? Is this a good solution?
Any advice is appreciated!! I am going to need a lot of advice if I am getting married and being the Maid/Matron of Honor for two weddings all in one year! 🙂
Post # 3
I think your plan sounds ok. Just one thing to be aware of: two weddings a week apart might be super busy for planning during those 2 weeks (1 week lead up each) and you would both have to arrange honeymoons around each other. BUT this doesn’t mean you can’t, just something to keep in mind. If you’re really close and it truly doesn’t bother you, then go ahead and have a great time! Congratulations. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
My cousin got engaged about a year after me, and is getting married this weekend, a week before me! However, it’s a little different for me, because he’s a dude, and we’re not in each other’s weddings or anything. But he chose to have his wedding in my hometown, which was very convenient for me, even though all of the rest of our family is from various places around the country.
I really thought a lot of our relatives would use it as a week-long vacation or something, but I think only one aunt will be hanging around the whole week, and one cousin is going somewhere else for a week with her family, so the majority is either only going to one of the weddings or travelling twice.
It sounds like a lot to be a Maid/Matron of Honor twice AND get married all in the same year! That’s not even counting any other weddings you might attend… Sounds a little crazy, but do-able!
Post # 5
I misunderstood this thread title. I interpreted it as getting married to each other, not timing between weddings. Voted correctly though!
Post # 6
My mom is getting married August 31 and I’m getting married September 8. My fiance and I didn’t want to wait another year and my sister and nephews live in England so we couldn’t expect them to come out again.
My mother and I aren’t having huge weddings. Hers is a small ceremony with a big party, mine is a Sunday lunch wedding. Neither of us are having bridals showers, bachelorettes, etc. It is working out great for us and I think you and your cousin can make it work if you are both on board 🙂
Post # 7
@LLemonDifficult: This! Me, too! I was like, ‘What……???’
Post # 8
@LLemonDifficult: I clicked on it because I was a bit shocked too! Lol
Post # 9
@LLemonDifficult: Me too!! I was REALLY confused.. I was like, um…. never okay? 😛
Post # 10
I originally thought it was some sisterwives stuff….:-)
I would honestly really worry about yours and your sisters right now. Your cousin isn’t even engaged yet. Even though she may be soon, you need to figure your stuff out and let her work her stuff out. I would go with Nov ’14.
Post # 11
6 months between sisters is no problem. I’d say about 3 months is the minimum between sisters.
1 week between cousins is trickier. Is your cousin sure the relatives would be ok with taking a whole week off to attend both weddings? Someone would need to talk to them. But on top of that, what would bother me would be that it could interfere with honeymoon plans. But I also don’t like the idea of forcing someone to move their wedding. That one’s hard…
Post # 12
My sister and I are getting married 5 weeks apart. While we are making it work, I wouldn’t suggest it. It is a big stress on our families (both financially and emotionally), and I feel really guilty about asking relatives to fly across the country so soon after another weeding. (Our families are spread all over the country). Plus, it gets weird with showers and such (I am wedding #2 and am foregoing showers, b/c I don’t want to ask relatives to attend another wedding event, nor do either of us sisters getting married want to ask the other — our Maid/Matron of Honor — to plan a shower when we are each trying to do our own weddings). You can make anything work, but the more space you can build in, the better.
Post # 13
I would think 6 months would be plenty of time for you and your sister. Any closer and it might be a financial burden for your family to attend both. As for you and your cousin, as long as you both don’t mind, I don’t see a problem with having them a week apart IF your guests are ok with spending their whole week vacation with you. As a guest, unless you lived somewhere cool that I’d like to visit, I would be unhappy to burn an entire week just to attend weddings.
Post # 14
My Future Sister-In-Law, Fiance, and their cousin are all getting married within 15 months of each other, with the longest trip for anyone being a 2-3 hour flight. People are being super annoying about it and complaining about having to travel and give gifts.
I think its fine, but you should just be prepared for possible complaints. I keep reminding everyone that if they didn’t want weddings close together they shouldn’t have had three children in two years in the family.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t take a full week off work to visit the mainland in November from Hawaii. The time between your wedding and your sister’s seems fine, but I don’t think 1 week between yours and your cousin’s would turn out so well. Have you talked to any discreet hawaii relatives about it?
Post # 16
This year my immediate family has had a big wedding anniversary, christening, funeral and two weddings, almost everyone is going/been to them all! Sometimes it’s just how it works out. A bit selfishly though, even though i wouldn’t mind getting married last, I’d want to get my date out there early!