(Closed) How come I don’t know how to make a decision for myself?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have pretty much the same problem, like today at the grocery store I wanted to get soda because my in-laws were coming over but I still called my Fiance to ask what kind. I am 25 I should be able to do that alone!!!!

Post # 4
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Me too.  I have a desire to please people.  For me, it has to do with my family and how I was “raised.”  By the way fellow artist, that is one reason I love making art- self directed.  You don’t have to “please it,” if that makes sense- you call the shots.  At least, I have found that connection for myself.

The wedding was a turning point for me, where I really started to see how much I was aiming to please others and how much it was damaging me.  If I could start it all over, I would do exactly what I wanted from the start.  I am learning it is better to please yourself because otherwise you have two unhappy people.  A lot of people can’t be pleased.  I am also learning that it isn’t my responsibility- other people’s emotions.  It is a lifelong journey for me, but when I don’t look out for myself, I am so quietly unhappy.

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