(Closed) How common are broken engagements?

posted 8 months ago in Engagement
Post # 61
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

sarandah :  “Everyone tends to live together before marriage and date plenty of people before choosing to commit.”

This is like the third blanket statement that I’ve seen you post that is entirely untrue. 

Post # 64
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

sarandah :  I’m saying that you’re making a lot of comments based on what you have seen first hand but acting like they apply to the rest of the world, that they are FACTS. Not just regarding your comment on this thread but others as well. 

ETA your last comment cracks me up “You better stay off my threads” … hate to break it to you but this is not how the internet works. 

Post # 66
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6061 posts
Bee Keeper

sarandah :  I have no vendetta, just a sharp memory for bee BS. 

I also didn’t twist anything, unless you edited your response – all I did was copy and paste it.

You also can’t “ban” anyone from your threads.  Sooo good luck with that LOL.

eta – Yes, I did say that. Because you started posting UNTRUE “facts” about pregnancy. They were literal lies. #fakenews

eta 2 – You must be thinking of someone else, I haven’t made fun of anyone for getting married young.

Post # 69
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6061 posts
Bee Keeper

Actually I found the thread you’re talking about LOL. To clarify, I wasn’t making fun of you for marrying young. I just found some of the things you said (again totally false) laughable, and noted your age for THOSE. 

https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/short-engagements-2/page/3 

I sincerely apologize if you thought I was making fun of you for marrying young, I definitely was not. 

Post # 71
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Bee Keeper

Arguing? Bee, I apologized lol. Sounds like you are the one arguing?

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee

It’s cool that you judge other people for realizing at some point that their relationship isn’t working and leave it. Obviously, those are terrible people and don’t take commitment seriously. Which is why they choose not to go ahead and make the legally binding commitment to get married. 

I know at least 10 people who have broken off engagements, including myself. One of those people got engaged fast in a long distance relationship and realized after being in the same city for a few months, that they weren’t actually compatible the way they thought. Another dated her ex-FI for 10 years before realizing in pre-marital counseling that the relationship was emotionally abusive and she needed out. I was young, dumb and idealistic and thought that the right way to solve a failing relationship was with more commitment. None of us got engaged to “hop on a social bandwagon” as you suggested.

 

Post # 74
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

sarandah :  I know plenty of people who didn’t live together before marriage. It’s very common in any religious circles for starters. I have had two serious relationships. I didn’t live with either before marriage. One ended in a broken engagement after 5.5 years, and the other ended in marriage. Your comments are very sweeping generalisations and none of them relate to my situation or why the engagement ended.

Post # 75
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2844 posts
Sugar bee

My husband’s sister called off an engagement because she found out he was cheating on her and I know of 2 other couples. 

I don’t find it that surprising to be honest. I think that getting engaged can be a bit of a wake up call for some people.

The couple may have just been going through the motions, but once FOREVER was actually on the table one person gets cold feet or starts to see things they’d ignored. Or people think that getting married will fix their problems and then realize that it won’t. Or one person was pressured into the engagement and later backs out. Or they’re more interested in the idea of getting engaged & married, than the relationship itself etc. 

Big steps in life often reveal things we either didn’t see before or chose to ignore. 

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