Post # 1
Where I live and in my social circle, destinations bachelor/bachelorette parties aren’t really a thing. In fact, before joining the Bee, it was something that we really only saw in movies lol.
Around here, girls usually go to dinner, go to a bar or dancing and a few people go to strip clubs or have sex toy parties or something.
Guys usually do something similar – food and a bar, or some trype of activity, like going to play paintball or softball.
(in fact, now that I think about it, the whole “stripper” deal isn’t a thing either. I only know of maybe one party that included a stripper, and that goes for guys and girls).
The closest we come to a “destination” bachelor/bachelorette is renting a cabin in the woods for, like, 1-2 days (which is what my husband & 5 other groomsmen are doing for his friend who is getting married this fall).
Price is another issue here as well, I guess. Each guest (BM/GM) will spend MAYBE $50 – $100 for a bachelor/bachelorette party. I can’t fathrom the idea of spending thousands on myself AND the bride/groom for a night out. (we don’t even spend that much for the wedding itself).
Are “low key” parties the norm for anyone else??
Post # 3
@Stace126: Low Key is the norm around here…I think I would slap someone if they tried to tell me I needed to spend my vacation time and money on a party for someone JUST because they’re getting married…and then I would tell them I’m not going.
Around here, you either throw a party at someone’s house, drink some adult beverages, watch a couple of funny movies, or go out for a night on the town…all said and done it isn’t a big deal at all and everyone got to have a good time.
Bachelor parties are pretty much the same, strip clubs aren’t imperative but they aren’t taboo either….everyone gets a little drunk and goes home happy…it works!
Post # 4
@Stace126: I wish my friends were all low-key! But no, most of my friends are very well able to afford destination parties. I’ve gone to Cabo and New Orleans, and those two parties cleaned me out. I’d love to attend a party that’s just a local dinner and a night out. My own bachelorette was like that too – I kept it local to where the majority of my friends were.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Our circle is low-key all the way. I had 1 bride tell me she wanted a destination bachelorette in Vegas (on top of her destination wedding in the Outer Banks) and I told her flat out that it wasn’t in the cards. She is a wonderful person who is normally very level-headed, but being a “bride” gave her all sorts of unrealistic ideas about things. We were all quite greatful when the wedding was over and she went back to being herself.
A typical bachelorette in our group consists of food and drinks. Definitely no strippers. male strippers = ewwwwwww A typical bachelor party is equally subdued. And I don’t think anyone ever spends more that $125ish.
Post # 6
Most people just go out bar hopping here. I guess guys might go to a strip club or bar hopping? We did go to Vegas for mine, which was fine (it was their idea and we had fun) but we had to go in the summer and I’m not a big fan of Vegas in the summer!
Post # 7
@Stace126: destination parties are very common here, but i think its because we have a lot of great options within a 2-4 hour drive (4 hours to most NC/SC beaches and 2 hours to the mountains of NC)…
my bachelorette party is at a cabin in the mountains for the weekend, and will most likely cost around $200 per person (including gas/food/lodging) for the whole weekend. Fiance and his buddies are going to wilmington, nc for a fishing weekend – they’ll most likely spend more like $400 or more each.
i might add that we are older (mid to late 30s) and most of our friends are more established money-wise, so its not a huge thing to ask and everyone is excited to go on an adventure! when i was in my 20s, a night on the town was quite common bc we were all on a budget!
Post # 8
It’s about 50/50 in my area for low-key and destination. While a girls beach trip would be awesome, my group of friends can’t (nor would I want them to) shell out that kind of money.
We did lowkey. My Maid/Matron of Honor arranged to do a Sips n Strokes class (which I loved, and everyone got to take home a piece of art to remember the day!!) then we went to a local Mexican place and ate and drank and got a little rowdy. Nothing crazy and we were all home before dark. It was fun, memorable, inexpensive and just how I would have liked to spend the day.
Darling Husband and his guys went skeet shooting at a local shooting range, then went to dinner and capped the night at a cigar bar. He really enjoyed it and said he wouldn’t have changed anything.
Post # 9
Ugh, I wish! Every bachelorette party I have been to involves a flight, hotel, fancy dinner, fancy clubs with bottle service, etc. Costs a fortune!
Post # 10
Destination is basically a given among my friends but we’re all late 20s/early 30s and making decent money. One of my BMs just got engaged and the convo at brunch was not “what should we do?” it was “Vegas or Turks and Caicos?”