(Closed) How could you say something like that to me!?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
999 posts
Busy bee

oh no that isnt right of her to say that. but who knows the best laid out plans doesnt always come true. and she may regret the words that she say. best of luck with everything. just always remember the people that care most will always do their best to be there to help you no matter what.

Post # 5
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree, that was rude!  I don’t understand why she thinks she can’t come to your wedding with a child?  I also don’t understand why she went so far to say that the other girls wouldn’t come either… did they actually say that or was she just putting words in their mouths? 

Don’t let it get to you.  The people who matter most will no doubt be honored to attend your wedding!

Post # 6
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

People are so odd. Try not to think about it until you actually get the “no” RSVP, but it’s a strange thing for her to even suggest now.

Post # 8
11824 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

That was such an insensitive and self-centered email!  I would respond back with something similar to what you posted here.  Let her know that it would really hurt your feelings if she didn’t make an effort to come to your wedding, and that it sounds like she’s already writing it off even though plans haven’t even been made yet!

Post # 10
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

What a mean thing to say… maybe some residual jealousy or something? Some people have a hard time seeing other people be happy. It’s so odd.

Post # 11
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That is just rude

If she ever says anything like that again….CALL HER ON IT!

You don’t have to get into a big fight..but that comment was rude and uncalled for. If she talks like that again….tell her to shove it! 🙂

Some people are so thoughtless and rude




Post # 12
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You’re b party and wedding will be better off without that self absorbed pregnant woman, or her crying baby, or her depressed self cause she can’t get pregnant.  She put it out there so it has to be one of the 3

Post # 13
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with Mrs. Penguin – some people just don’t know how to be happy for others, even their friends.  She may be jealous, maybe she’s just a selfish brat, or maybe she “knows not what she says.”  I am the last of my high school friends to get married, and I honestly felt the same way that you did for a bit – that no one would be there for me.  Turns out, I have been wrong (so far).  One of my bridesmaids will most likely be pregnant by my wedding, but she has still promised to come to the bachelorette party, etc.  Don’t let this girl speak for all of your friends – I’ll bet some of them would be really upset to hear she told you this.  

Post # 14
5951 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013


That’s nothing but sassy.  Ridiculous.

Post # 15
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh well that was B****Y wasn’t it!

I would ignore it – I bet when it comes to your time they will be thrilled and will be there for you even if they can’t drink!

Post # 16
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

Just to further what Penguin said, sometimes, especially when people aren’t truly content, they try to ruin your joy to make themselves feel better.  Try to shake it off, and if she really doesn’t make the effort to come to your wedding, than she wasn’t a friend to begin with.

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