Post # 16
We didn’t have a registry and we got only cash, except for a good friend (who is an artist) who made us a beautiful painting.
We we’re going to go the route of only registering for 10 things, but then we realized that if those 10 things get bought then other people might think that they can then buy us other random stuff. By simply not having a registry people get the idea that you just want money 🙂
Post # 17
If you don’t have a registry, people will give you cash.
I didn’t have a registry, and told people ‘no gifts – just attending is enough!’ when they asked. People bluntly asked if we wanted cash (they wanted to gift it if that’s what we wanted!) – I told them no, please, no gifts. We were only able to persuade a small amount of people not to gift – we got cash from most of our guests (and 1 very nice bottle of champagne).
Post # 18
Schmashley : I completely agree also. In my family and circle of friends, if you’re throwing an expensive wedding and/or taking an expensive honeymoon, then have the “nerve” to ask for people to directly contribute to your house fund, it’s going to go over like a lead balloon. My family is more old school, and you will be talked about. They will ask (behind your back of course) why wasn’t that money applied to a mortgage instead of blowing it on one day or blowing it on a big trip?
Post # 19
We did not do a registry but we also ended up eloping. Upon learning of our marriage we did receive acknowledgment from a number of people. Some cards, some cards containing cash and a few small gifts. Since we eloped we were not anticipating anything so we were very grateful for what we did receive.
I am of the impression that if there isn’t a registry then many people will default to gifting cash.
Post # 20
I commented on your other post as well, but I think it depends on your guests and your region/culture. People in our circles do cash gifts so I didn’t worry about it. Some guests did ask about a registry so I created a small one with items that I didn’t really need, but would be nice to have because I normally wouldn’t buy them myself. Like a Kitchenaid mixer or stainless steel measuring cups. If cash gifts are not the norm in your area or you think a lot of your guests won’t get the no registry hint, I’d do a small registry.