Post # 31
sboom : I didn’t say either was rude.
I just pointed out that OP was using “cons” as somehow her “pros” and it doesnt make sense. I had a semi destination wedding myself. But I didn’t kid myself during that planning that someone who had never left their area was going to spend thousands to attend – and I only did it a province over, not an international flight. There are many people who would rather fly out for a weekend to attend a wedding in their country rather than spend a whole week in a foreign one.
Post # 32
coffeecakez : Yep. I’m skipping a destination bachelorette party in the spring for this exact reason and I was badgered by friends asking why I wasn’t going, offering to pay etc. Interrogating invitation declines is always rude but especially when they are destination events.
Post # 33
Yeah I think when someone’s declinded that’s really rude to go after them to ask why because the reason doesn’t matter.
I’m not saying there aren’t cons. But I would much rather spend my money going to a tropical island then going to the East Coast and a suburban town. There are only about 8 people who are local, Only 2 of which are family. And there his family and he would rather be away from here anyway.
Post # 34
Closing the topic because I have things to consider but it’s always going one way or the other. It’s either rude and I should do it here, Or I should have the wedding I want. So I’ll feel out my family and the people I care about the most and I’ll talk to my fiance about it more to.
I appreciate bringing up the Zika factor, And to whoever mentioned November being monsoon season Although we’re talking end of November beginning of December. Although if we’re gonna keep it really small and do a destination wedding maybe we will do March or April.
Thanks for the opinions.