(Closed) How did you and your SO put your money together?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1313 posts
Bumble bee

Ours was so easy and it worked out for us perfect. It’s not for everyone, but I pretty much am in total control. So far, this has worked great (1 year).

We have had zero money arguments!

He understands we don’t have much at all and I am very responsible with buying and paying bills… Maybe things will change when (if) we ever have more money, I don’t know. I like it the way it is though ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 4
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

We have everything together.  I manage the bill paying for the most part but we are both responsible for keeping up to date on our financial situation and discussing big ticket items before we swipe that card.  I have never understood the idea of separate accounts for married couples but it’s a decision you have to make for yourself.

Post # 5
1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We have the same checking and savings account with two debit cards. We also have another savings account that cannot be accessed through any cards, which gives us peace of mind ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We have seperate checkings and savings accounts and then have a joint account that we both put a set amount of money into monthly. The joint account is for all household expenses, utilities, mortgage, groceries, etc. Our personal accounts are for our own use. We don’t discuss what we buy with that money unless it’s something that we agree upon earlier. It works great for us and we never argue about money.

Post # 7
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband was more than glad to turn finances over to me once we got married.  We opened a new joint checking account and savings account together.deposited the money from our separate accounts into them, and closed the separate accounts.  We still have some separate accounts like IRAs, but we named each other as beneficiary.

I did keep one separate checking account open (but put his name on it as a TOD beneficiary) for buying Christmas and birthday presents.  Other than those times of the year, I only keep about $50 in it.  He didn’t do this because he shops in person, with cash.

So far, it’s worked perfectly.  We both have debit cards from our joint account that we use.  Neither of us our big spenders, so we don’t really have any issue with the other one’s spending habits.

Post # 8
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We will be putting 100% of our money together.  That means we’ll join our checking accounts and savings accounts.  We’ll keep our credit cards but add each other’s names to them.  We will also be adding each other’s names to our various retirement accounts and investment vehicles.

We’re both very responsible about money and are totally on the same page about spending.  We agreed that large ticket items need to be discussed, (the definition of what is a large purchase being dictated by our financial situation at the time).

Post # 9
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think we are going to do the same thing as @jamithebride said–have a joint account, and then have separate accounts too.  We have been living together for over 4 years now, so we already think about all the money we make as “ours,” but I think if I have some of my paycheck go to our joint account for bills and some of it go to a personal account, and the same for him, it’ll be for the best.  We both have solid jobs and make a similar amount of money.  He really doesn’t need to know what my Nordstrom/Express/Victorias Secret card bills are, and I don’t know how much he spends when he goes to Guitar Center, and it’s probably best for us both if it continues that way after we get married ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We opened up a joint checking account as soon as we got engaged.  I know that’s not really the norm, but it worked for us.

After getting married we have a joint savings account, joint banking account that most of our money goes in, and two other joint accounts (one for paying bills, the other for my business).

He has a separate account for his business at a totally different bank.

Post # 11
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Both of our salaries are direct deposited into one account. Every month, $150 is automatically transferred to each of our secondary accounts for “fun” money. Everything else comes out of the joint account. We roll extra money every week into our high interest money market account, and have a high yield savings account for shorter term savings/goals. It’s a great system – very transparent so that we can see where we could be saving more money/where we can afford to spend more. Most stuff comes out of the joint account (like, if I need a pair of shoes or I run out of concealer, it comes out of the joint account, not personal spending). It lets us use our fun money for real “wants” and “nonessentials”, which we both love!

Post # 12
44 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have a checking account and he does not – he likes to have all his cash on him (which I think is a terrible idea, but hey, I’m not gonna intrude on his way of doing things) and we opened a joint checking account for our wedding savings account.

Sounds funny, but we each have a debit card for this checking account to be used for the wedding and ONLY for the wedding. We each put 100 in the checking account every paycheck (we don’t make enough to put in more:( ) which ends up being $400 a month. Pretty decent in my opinion. Our wedding budget was $5000 and we saved for a year, so we have just enough.

The reason we made a checking account was so that we could slowly buy things over time for less stress in the recent months.

This set-up worked fantastically for us, and will now be used for a joint savings for whatever is coming up in our lives after the wedding. It’s in 10 days! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’ve had a joint account for about 3yrs (since moving in together). At 1st it was really hard getting use to it. But over time we developed a system. We consult before spending more than $50 on anything thats not a bill. Just to keep eachother in the loop. 

Post # 14
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

All our income goes into one bank accout – mine – and I am in charge of it.  I manage our budget, give us both a weekly spending money allowance, pay our bills and put aside the rest into savings.  It works for us.  I am much more self-controlled than he is about money, not to mention I’m an accountant by trade.

Post # 15
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Darling Husband and I share a checking account.  All the money either of us make goes into it, and all the money either of us spend comes out of it.  (We of course have other savings accounts, but that’s as far as our checking/spending money goes). My Darling Husband makes about 4/5 of our money (I work very part time), so he would have had to pay all of our bills anyway. 

At first, since it felt like his money, I felt like I should call him everytime I was buying anything.  He finally told me that he is happy to share his money/give his money to me, so I can buy things with it without guilt.  Now, we just consult eachother if we are buying anything large.

It works out great for us, and we never seem to have problems or arguments with our money.  Oh, and he handles the bills.  He always wanted to be the one to do that, and I don’t mind at all! : )

Post # 16
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We have seperate accounts but we are going to open a joint account for wedding expenses and then after the wedding we will use that account for all our joint expenses.

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