(Closed) How did you ask them to be your Maid of Honor/Bridesmaids??

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I just sent flowers to my maids to ask them. I love your idea of having just one, it was something I considered finally decided against. If you have just one, you might do something more lavish, like take a little weekend trip. I was once asked via elaborate scavenger hunt, inspired by the movie Amelie

Post # 4
4 posts

I love that you are actually ASKING your maid, I was not asked and it really miffed me. Rather, I was told i was going to be in her wedding in front of just about everyone else. I would have rather just come to the wedding and not been in it. 

Post # 5
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just asked my BMs today!  Well, I just ordered the "invitations" today… I wanted to do something special, but not too elaborate (I had a friend make a HUGE deal out of it, asking each of 8 BMs secretly in turn over the course of like three hours, and it became more frustrating than special). 

Anyway, I ordered them potted orchids that included a little message such as "Like the long-lasting beauty of a nurtured orchid, I cherish your loyal friendship and beautiful spirit.  Will you please stand by me as a bridesmaid on my wedding day?"  I am having them sent to their offices, so they get a nice little surprise at work as well!

p.s. an added bonus–even though I would normally prefer to go with a local florist, I orded the plants through FTD.com because the girls are all over in different cities, and I got 20 frequent flier miles per $1–that will go a long way in helping us get free airfare for our honeymoon!

Post # 6
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I wanted to ask all of my ‘maids at once, but since they were all in different cities, that meant sending cards to each of them.  Then, I took each of them to lunch to discuss details and flash the ring as I made trips to the various locations.  I love the idea of sending flowers, though.  My girls also all knew their role before they were officially asked, but I still wanted to make it "official" and it was such a special moment when each of them said yes.

Post # 7
3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

i blurted it out the second i was able to, probably via text or email!!! haha.

Post # 8
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I borrowed an idea from another bee and I proposed to my girls!

I made them each a card that said “name” will you…. and on the inside it said be my MOH/BM and then inside I had written each of them a letter of why I want them to be with my on my day (I cried while writing these) and topped it all off by getting down on one knee and proposing with a ring pop!

It was fun and I am glad that I have the pictures to put in my wedding scrapbook!

Post # 9
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Victorian Gardens of Two Sisters

I asked via Facebook *hides face*

After seeing so many cute ideas where brides “propose” to their BMs, I wish I would have done it differently.

Actually, I called my Maid/Matron of Honor.  But I did ask two of them through Facebook…

Post # 10
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I just asked them…*sheepish shrug.*  I gave them hugs!

Post # 11
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I thought about all these cute ways that I could do it, and in the end, I feel through on ALL of them!  LOL.  I met my Maid/Matron of Honor for dinner and after dinner we were just standing there beside our cars talking about stuff and it just happened.  I told her that I coudln’t imagine going through the day without her by my side, and we both cried.  After tears and hugs, we started jumped around all girly and excited!

The other two bridesmaids live several hours away and unfortunately, I just did it over the phone with them.  It was still special, but not quite as special as if I had been able to visit and do it in person…

Post # 12
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor in a very backhanded manor… we were looking at her wedding photos from a few months prior and I said something about “when it’s her turn to be my Maid/Matron of Honor… oh by the way, will you be my MOH?” Ha. Not very memorable… but neither of us remember how she asked me either. 😛

We didn’t do anything special, just asked eveyone individually – I think most of them already knew anyway.

Post # 13
144 posts
Blushing bee

My bff never asked me to be her moh.

I asked her!

I LOVE planning events!  She HATES planning anything!


When bff screamed via cell she was engaged!!!  I said “I’ll plan your entire wedding if you let me be your moh.”

She said HECK YEAH!

And here we are.


btw – she would have asked me to be moh anyway.  No sister.

Post # 14
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I made cards with a peom and a picture of us (well, sometimes more than one). The peom was about if I lost my sanity and became all crazy brides, please hit me over a head with a brick…and than I sprayed paint a foam piece a brick color and made it look like a brick (I also put bridal brick on it for the dim headed 😉 lol)

The groomsman I made a card and my fi wrote a little note in there and I made a list of duties and what they will wear.

Post # 15
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

First of all, I was torn between a long time best friend of 12 years and my newer best friend of 6 years.  So, one day my newer best friend had a BBQ up at her house, we all hung out, had a few drinks, sat around the fire pit and were just chatting.  Well, there was some lady sitting between us and they were talking together.  Me in my buzzed ad very anxious state, decided AT THAT MOMENT that I would ask my friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. 

So, I just kinda butted into their conversation and I said, “Sorry, but I have to get this out of my head!!  Will you be my Matron of Honor?”  She giggled and said, “You’re so funny, of course.”  I then we both smiled and I let out a sigh of relief (it was an extremely hard decision for me to make) and said, “Sweet!!  I love you! Okay, sorry I interupted, go ahead.” 

Kinda lame? Maybe, but that’s me.  It was totally me.  LOL. 


Post # 16
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

I made all my girls hand-made cards. I asked my sister on the phone when I told her I was engaged but I sent her a card anyways. They all loved them!

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