(Closed) How did you ask your bridesmaids?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

They will or will not say yes regardless of a pintrest gift. I texted them and gave a necklace along with a note the next time I saw them a couple months later. They both live across the country

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I just asked them in person. No gift, nothing cutesy. Not even a card. I just said ‘I was wondering if you would like to be one of my bridesmaids’ and braced myself for the hug that I knew was coming. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

over the phone. we’re pretty casual, live far apart, and don’t really feel like something like this requires a big to-do.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I made little gift boxes and put a key chain charm in them, with a note inside the box asking to be my MOH/BM. I spent maybe $12 each for the charm and to make the box. It was just something small that had personal meaning to all of us. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

foofyq:  I called them on the phone and asked them.

ETA: I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor in person over lunch because she’s the only one that’s local.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Every time I’ve been asked it was over the phone. When/if (still undecided if a wedding party will happen) I will do something cutesy. I know they will do it regardless, but I still want to do something to make them feel special.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I shipped/delivered all eight of my girls boxes that included

  1. Bridesmaids dress
  2. 2015 planner with the wedding date marked
  3. Starbucks reusable mug with BM/MOH written where the barista would write the name
  4. Wedding jewelry
  5. A personal note 

My maids were thrilled to have their dresses (and not have to pay for them) and the ones who live out of town sent me pictures of themselves in their dresses when they accepted. It was great!!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I only gave a gift to my Maid and Matron of Honor. I got a flask, earrings, chocolates, and nail polish. I also added a personal note. I put it all in a gift bag in our wedding colors. For my other maids I did a flipgram of various pictures of me with them all and tagged them on Instragram. I added a caption about how we’ve made so many memories together, how about one more? Will you be my bridesmaids. They loved the idea!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I only had to ask two gals, my sister (MOH) and now-SIL (BM). We had a small wedding party. But, I still wanted to do something for them. They each got a card that basically asked the question, and then a box full of goodies. Darling Husband had his Brother-In-Law as a Groomsmen, so we asked both when we were out for supper one night (DH gave him a mini bottle of booze).

I got the cards from an Etsy shop, and the box included a mini bottle of champagne, nail polish, and lip gloss. I am a gifty person, so I didn’t mind.

I’ve been in a couple weddings – one friend just asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man before a Rec League volleyball game (no gift), and another asked me to her ber Personal Attendant after we went to a wedding show together (I was not engaged at this time), which also included a slice of banana bread.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

foofyq:  I just asked. One in person and the other over facebook (I couldn’t wait to ask her). There were no gifts at that time. I did give thank you gifts to them at the shower (for throwing the shower) and at the wedding rehearsal. I’ve stood in 3 weddings and only got a gift with the ask for the last one. She gave me a bottle of wine with a picture of us together on it. It was cute!

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