Post # 1
Hi Everyone! I’m new here and newly engaged. I know that lots of people do cute things when asking their friends to be bridesmaids, and I was wondering what people thought about that? I feel like simply asking someone in person might not be enough… Is it common to give a gift when asking? I only plan on having my sister and one friend stand up with me, so I do want it to feel special for them to be asked (And I want them to say yes!!)
Thanks for any suggestion/comments!
Post # 2
They will or will not say yes regardless of a pintrest gift. I texted them and gave a necklace along with a note the next time I saw them a couple months later. They both live across the country
Post # 3
Thanks @theatrejulia! I guess I feel nervous because my one friend got married last year (I was not in the wedding but I did attend) and she did lots of really cutsey things leading up to the wedding, including making cute pinterest-worthy gifts for her bridesmaids when she asked them. I don’t know if she expects something similar from me or not…
Post # 4
I just asked them in person. No gift, nothing cutesy. Not even a card. I just said ‘I was wondering if you would like to be one of my bridesmaids’ and braced myself for the hug that I knew was coming.
Post # 5
over the phone. we’re pretty casual, live far apart, and don’t really feel like something like this requires a big to-do.
Post # 6
I made little gift boxes and put a key chain charm in them, with a note inside the box asking to be my MOH/BM. I spent maybe $12 each for the charm and to make the box. It was just something small that had personal meaning to all of us.
Post # 7
Thank you @MrsWhitneyC2015 and @sporkette!! Seriously, it’s my style to be relaxed and laid back and I was getting so nervous about asking! This gives me confidence 🙂
Post # 8
@adrienneruthie aw thats really sweet. Yeah something small and sentimental is a nice way to go.
Post # 9
foofyq: I called them on the phone and asked them.
ETA: I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor in person over lunch because she’s the only one that’s local.
Post # 10
Every time I’ve been asked it was over the phone. When/if (still undecided if a wedding party will happen) I will do something cutesy. I know they will do it regardless, but I still want to do something to make them feel special.
Post # 11
I shipped/delivered all eight of my girls boxes that included
- Bridesmaids dress
- 2015 planner with the wedding date marked
- Starbucks reusable mug with BM/MOH written where the barista would write the name
- Wedding jewelry
- A personal note
My maids were thrilled to have their dresses (and not have to pay for them) and the ones who live out of town sent me pictures of themselves in their dresses when they accepted. It was great!!
Post # 12
@BeachBee1988 wow you sent them all dresses! That’s impressive! Seems like a great way to get all the dress drama over before it even begins 😉
Post # 13
I only gave a gift to my Maid and Matron of Honor. I got a flask, earrings, chocolates, and nail polish. I also added a personal note. I put it all in a gift bag in our wedding colors. For my other maids I did a flipgram of various pictures of me with them all and tagged them on Instragram. I added a caption about how we’ve made so many memories together, how about one more? Will you be my bridesmaids. They loved the idea!
Post # 14
I only had to ask two gals, my sister (MOH) and now-SIL (BM). We had a small wedding party. But, I still wanted to do something for them. They each got a card that basically asked the question, and then a box full of goodies. Darling Husband had his Brother-In-Law as a Groomsmen, so we asked both when we were out for supper one night (DH gave him a mini bottle of booze).
I got the cards from an Etsy shop, and the box included a mini bottle of champagne, nail polish, and lip gloss. I am a gifty person, so I didn’t mind.
I’ve been in a couple weddings – one friend just asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man before a Rec League volleyball game (no gift), and another asked me to her ber Personal Attendant after we went to a wedding show together (I was not engaged at this time), which also included a slice of banana bread.
Post # 15
foofyq: I just asked. One in person and the other over facebook (I couldn’t wait to ask her). There were no gifts at that time. I did give thank you gifts to them at the shower (for throwing the shower) and at the wedding rehearsal. I’ve stood in 3 weddings and only got a gift with the ask for the last one. She gave me a bottle of wine with a picture of us together on it. It was cute!