(Closed) How did you ask your bridesmaids?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ok, I was lame.  I called my kids to announce our engagement, and asked each of them to be our attendants at the same time.

Post # 4
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Such a special time!! What I did was really simple…we all went out for a super nice dinner & I wrote them each a letter.

It was just a simple “will you be my bridesmaid?” with a sunflower (the flower we will be using in the wedding) printed on the top of the paper in our wedding colors. At the bottom I hand wrote a personal letter to each of them. Simple, but sweet 🙂



Post # 5
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have one Maid/Matron of Honor and 4 bridesmaids ( out of 5 only 2 are local, so I either did this via mail or in person). I wrote them each a personalized card about how important they are to me and how it would be an honor to include them in my wedding. Along with the card they each got a DVD just for fun– Maid/Matron of Honor got Made of Honor, and bridesmaids got 27 dresses.

Post # 6
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly? I either called them or asked them in person depending on if they were out of town or not. I would chit chat for a bit then say “hey, I’ve got a question for you” and pretty much just ask them to be my bridesmaid.

I’ve been getting personalized flip-open purse mirrors for them once I’m certain that they’ll be able to make it, and without ceremony, just handed it to them with gratitude. I’ll come up with something else to give them at the rehearsal dinner, too.

I asked them with quite the lack of pomp and circumstance, but they didn’t seem to mind at all. I probably could have come up with a much cuter way if I put more thought to it, but I didn’t.

Post # 7
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didnt ask I told them lol

Post # 8
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I made cards for the BMs that had a modified version of this (see pic!) on them. For the Maid/Matron of Honor I decorated a chipboard album and added a $5 Dunkin Doughnuts gift card since that’s her favorite restaurant :). I was actually going to do the album thing for all of them, but they’re time consuming and I wanted to ask them quickly since I was so excited.


Post # 9
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I was boring. My Maid/Matron of Honor I asked via email (wow I’m lame… lol) but it was for a reason. I wasn’t going to see her for another few months and she’d said something about maybe flying my Fiance and I to see her to celebrate and I didn’t want her spending that kind of money because I knew she’d have to buy a dress and whatnot. So I just spilled it via email 🙂

My other two Bridesmaid or Best Man I waited until I saw in person and just asked them. 

Post # 10
527 posts
Busy bee

My Man of Honor lives in NY and has known he was going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor since forever, so all I had to do was call him.  My other bridesmaid and our officiant (her husband) took us for a sail on their boat.  We brought a bottle of champagne.  After we popped the cork I asked them to be part of our day!

Post # 11
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

On a whim I decided to go look at wedding dresses for the first time and I sent a message to my close friends, you know, “the group”, and asked if anyone wanted to meet me.  All 3 of them are nurses and have kids so for all 4 of us to get together at one time is sometimes difficult to plant out.  Turned out, they were all free!  It was kind of funny because they all knew they would be bridesmaids even though I hadn’t asked them yet.  They kept laughing and making fun of me because I hadn’t asked them and I said I was waiting for them all to be together, so finally when the 3rd girl arrived, I asked them and it was not all that exciting because it was just a known thing.  But it was still fun.

Post # 12
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I took my maid of honor out for Mega Margaritas at Mexican Village, and had put together an album of photos of us together throughout our friendship. Then I also put quotes opposite from the photos (I’m known for finding good quotes). I said it was just something I was working on, and throughout it she was saying how she wanted one too… On the last one, I simply put, “Will you be my maid of honor?” She knew she was going to be part of the wedding, I just don’t think she realized I would ask her to be my MOH! The others I either asked in person, or via phone or email because those weren’t in town!

One of my bridesmaids I had to call since she lives 4 hours away. I didn’t plan on asking her right away, but considering she’s been one of my best for 18 years I had to… I asked her and we were both pretty much crying on the phone! She got married last year, so she’s more than excited!

Post # 13
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m making each of them individual cards with a photo of me & the bridesmaid on the front. Inside I’ll write a personal note to each asking them to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 14
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I asked two of them almost immediately after getting engaged.  They were/are my best friends and obviouis choices.  The third was a little harder to figure out, but then as luck would have it I developed a good friendship with FI’s Cousin’s new bride.

I asked her out to lunch and made a card for her.  I wrote a cute little poem and gave it to her at lunch.  I then made cards for the other two gals to re-ask in a more special way.  I wrote special poems for each of them with something meaningful about our relationship.  They were super corney, but very me.

I’m doing the same for my flower girl(s) and ring bear, now that I’ve asked their parents.

Post # 15
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I created a personaized note and prettied it up in InDesign with my wedding colors and then put it in a nice frame for my girls. Then I met up with them all for lunch, etc to ask them. Almost all of them cried!

Post # 16
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m lame. I just called them, but they knew they were going to be in the wedding regardless, lol.

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