(Closed) How did you ask your bridesmaids? I'll show you mine if you show me yours!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

bridesmaid boxes.. although I’m still waiting on 1 tiny little thing to add [cell phone dust plugs.. they are taking AGES to ship].

I can’t wait to finish them & post them!

Post # 5
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That’s really sweet! 

I wrote my girls a personalized letter each on a piece of paper in our wedding colours and then framed it in a really nice frame for them to reuse later one! 

Post # 6
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is such a sweet and thoughtful way to ask your bridesmaids! I bet you are making each girl feel very special.

Post # 7
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014


Well, I took a unfinished wooden box, with a latch on each.

Each box contains and is a theme color based on the girls favorite colors :

1 sparkly tank top [non-wedding related]

baby lips gloss

hard candy eye shadow

nail polish

mini photo frame

mini change purse

pearl bracelet & earrings [just for fun]

cell phone charm.


Once I finish them, I’ll close the box, and on top I’ll add their day-of clucth.. which looks just like mine, but in black. Here is my clutch :

The clutch will contain their day-of wedding jewelry [pearl necklace & earrings that also match mine, but once again, in black], wrap it all up in lace and add a name tag with their names.



Post # 9
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@HonoraryNerd:  your baskets are so cute! I made little notes for each of my BMs. I wrote a personalized note to each of them on the back.

Post # 10
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I bought unfinished boxes, stained them, added a design and their initial on the front:

Then put “will you be my bridesmaid” on the inside.  I put chocolate covered coffee beans, burlap and fabric in the wedding purple, and flower petals.  Then I included some info/logistics on kraft paper that was actually really cute.  Lastly, I hand wrote a letter explaining why I would love them to be by my side, full of inside jokes and memories and all that good stuff!



In case anyone is perusing this thread and wants to do a little “informational” thing like I did:

{your role}

Having you stand next to me when I say “I do” is the only thing I truly need and we will feel so blessed and grateful simply to have your support and love on our day.  Please do not stress about attending pre-wedding showers or parties and under absolutely no circumstances should you purchase me a gift.  Your presence is the perfect present.

{pre-wedding jobs}

– keep me sane.

– look at photos and links to inspiration, then either ooh and aah, if you feel like it, or tell me it’s heinous.  (I may or may not listen.)

– cheerfully give input on stupid things like “tahitian vanilla or vanilla bean?”

– nod enthusiastically during rants about registry china patterns

– know how much I rely on you and truly value your opinion.

{wedding day duties}

– keep me sane (good luck).

– hold a pretty bouquet.

– wear a beautiful dress.

– pose for pictures we both will treasure forever.

– eat some tasty cake!

– prevent me from committing homicide (this is not a joke)

– make absolutely certain that I am consuming enough wine.

– know how much I love you.

(in this section, I also included special instructions as inside jokes – like one  was get wasted and try to recite Corinthians 13 at the reception, another one had “be my bossy-pants Type-A ringleader bitch who gets shit done.”)


{our day}

when: September 6, 2014 

where: (VENUE)

We are getting married at a lodge in ______ which is 10 miles north of __________ and 20 miles south of _________.  We have reserved the lodge & cabins for the entire weekend – Friday afternoon through Sunday afternoon – and would like the wedding party and our close friends and family to stay the weekend with us at the cabin, not only to spare you the hassle and expense of a hotel room, but also to have an awesome weekend-long party.  You are welcome to show up any day, even to our house before Friday, if you want.  We will take care of you!

Since we are doing so many DIY projects, the wedding will require quite a bit of set-up and take-down.  I’ll need your help with the girly little details, like making sure the table settings look even and that my bouquet doesn’t make me look fat.  {you know, the important stuff.}


{your dress}

Participating in weddings can be not only time-consuming, but expensive, especially since you’ll be traveling so far.  We don’t want our wedding to be a burden to anyone, so Fiance and I would love to purchase the bridesmaid gowns to help offset the cost of being by our side on our big day.  I haven’t picked out the dress yet, but think plum, and we’ll send some links back and forth and figure out something that works for everyone.


And here’s a sample of the letter:


Dear ________,

I have so many hilarious and amazing memories with you that I can’t even begin to count them.  The best part is that none of them are especially amazing events – no, instead, we have the extraordinary ability to enjoy and entertain each other simply based on everyday occurrences.  We didn’t wreak havoc in the bars together or deliver a baby in a Denny’s parking lot or anything legendary like that.  Our connection solely exists in the way we experience and interpret the smallest events and details of this funny thing we call life, and honestly, that’s the formula for an unusual and beautiful friendship.

This friendship is one of the greatest blessings of my life, and it kind of took me by surprise: initially, you were a happenstance roommate that I simply didn’t want to murder at the end of the semester (truly a tremendous feat on your part), but you slowly and surely became the person I rely on most.  You are my soundboard, my advice column, my security blanket, my save haven, and you inspire me to be the best version of me while simultaneously allowing me to forgive myself for weaknesses.

I admire you for so many reasons – your strength, your commitment to being yourself, your independence that coexists with your passion for other people, your humility that functions symbiotically with your recognition of your own bad-assery and self-worth.  You are my comedic relief when I am stressed, the best absorber of my venting that I’ve ever encountered, and most importantly, you throw shit at me when I say I look fat.

This is starting to sound like a creepy love letter but I honestly cannot express enough how much I love you in the span of this one page.  We are not especially sappy people, but since I’m getting married I am allowed this moment to be a total spaz, and I’m going to embrace it.  Thank you for being my best friend, my long-distance companion, my lesbian soul mate, my voice of reason as well as my crazy other half.  I so look forward to the ridiculous text messages, hysterical mockery, and, above all, the memories that are to come.

I love you, woman.  Please do me the honor of being my bridesmaid, because I don’t know what I’d do without you – wedding day or any day.

Post # 11
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wow! These are all awesome, ladies. I must be boring. I just asked each of them in person a month or two after the proposal. These are all great ideas, though! 

Post # 12
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  I got cards made for each of my girls and put ring pops in the boxes I made them 🙂 each girl got something slightly different but the same idea 🙂

Post # 14
6529 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@HonoraryNerd:  i asked my BMs over dinner. Nothing special. I didnt realize til after the fsct that people give little gifts to ask them

Post # 16
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

These are the bags (I used vinyl from Uppercase Living)

Inside the bags:

Maid/Matron of Honor – a shell for her Miche purse and some natural non-toxic nail polish

Bridesmaid or Best Man 1, 2, 3 – a copy of Breakfast at Tiffany’s dvd (the wedding theme), a wine to go cup, and a Scentsy bar in “Love Story” scent (I am a Scentsy consultant)

Bridesmaid or Best Man4 – a wine to go cup and Boston Terrier salt and pepper shakers


My sister (MOH) got different gifts because: she doesn’t really watch movies that aren’t kids movies (has a 3 and 5 year old), doesn’t drink wine and has plenty of Scentsy from me

Bridesmaid or Best Man4 already had Breakfast at Tiffany’s (she is a huge fan as well)


They were all excited. Several of them had been BMs before and had never received gifts.

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