(Closed) How did you ask your bridesmaids to be in your wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I called and asked them.   I told them they just needed a dress that was navy and that I didn’t want to do any showers or other parties.  I also told them what the wedding weekend would be like and then asked them.  That’s how I was asked to be a maid of honor.

Being a bridesmaid can be expensive/a big time commitment, so I think its nice to tell them what they are getting into before they accept.

 

Post # 32
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432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

marinarosalin:  of course not! I found the box ideas on Pinterest and just modified it. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

devinrenae:  oooo, Pacific Cookie company. good call. that used to be my favorite part of taking ju-jitsu. . .my father would take us (kids) out to the warehouse location in Santa Cruz. the peanut butter chocolate chip ones were the BEST when the chips were still melty. 

pinkprincess88:  I live in BC/WA, and my girls are in CA, WI, and NE, so I sent them each a card, a bottle of champagne, and boxes of truffles (creme brulee, tiramisu, and coffee flavored)

Post # 34
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Helper bee

Well my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she basically knew already that I would ask her, but I bought them all (I have three) Kate Spade planners with the wedding date written in and a sweet note at the front. They are all really bad with remembering dates so I though it was a good route to take. One of my bridesmaids I also met up with at Starbucks and since I got there before her I ordered her drink and had them write bridesmaid on the cup instead of her name. It was so cute when she realized what it said!

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

havenspartyof2:  I don’t know if they still make those! I have never seen them, but I will have to ask next time I am there! The cholcolate cookies with mint chips are TO DIE FOR!

Post # 36
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Worker bee

pinkprincess88:  Hi there. I got a bunch of ideas together and I added my own flare. I bought one of those small photo boxes (the ones with the flowers and sayings and butterflies) for each girl. Inside, I taped a pin to the cover. And with a silver sharpie wrote ” He “popped” the question now I will too…”

Then I had wrote them cards. I also put a balloon inside with a message in it that said the girls name and ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’

It was very personalized and although handmade, I feel like they were gorgeous. And each girl seemed to appreciate the personal touch. If your interested, I can walk you through how to make them 🙂

Post # 37
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

pinkprincess88:  All of my bridesmaids knew before I was engaged that they were going to be in my wedding someday, haha. All I had to do was say “Ok, you ready to do this!?”  I am the last one of all of us to get married so they’d all been waiting for it!  

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I didn’t make my fun 🙁 I just texted my friends and asked since one left her job to start her own company, another is changing jobs, and another is looking for work. I wanted something low pressure since I wasn’t sure if they could commit or not. I wrote them a nice message but at the end said you have plenty of time to think about it and I understand if you can’t right now. I also, had talked to them about it long before I got engaged. I am planning on buying them really cute gifts though! The thank you for being my bridesmaid posted by
tjacob2014 was super cute!

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I made little blue Tiffany’s ring boxes with white ribbon with a ring pop in each and a poem on the lid asking them to be my bridesmaid. Whenever I would see one,  I would grab a box and get down on one knee and propose to them. They were all at a Halloween party together so I did them all in one night and got a picture with us all and our ring pops. Lol. It was fun! 

Post # 40
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Each one got a different polish color and swatch according to the dress color they would be wearing. And then I painted the top of the little box with some of my other wedding colors. I added a little flower and pearls to the inside top of the  box. Then I sent them through the mail. It was probably about $13 a box then shipping. Though I could have probably hand delivered most of them. My mom insisted I mail them because “no one gets real mail anymore.” Clearly she doesn’t understand the amount of amazon shopping people do these days. They were all super happy with them though. 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

pinkprincess88:  I’m a little jaded about all this admittedly, because I’m on the other side of things now. A starry eyed bride to be thinks her wedding is the most exiting day of everyone’s life. I just asked. You have to remember how much time and money this will cost them, it’s not a free trip to Disneyworld. I think those gifts and things are cute but not necessary.

Post # 42
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358 posts
Helper bee

I also made “bridesmaid proposal boxes.” I saw them on Pinterest and thought they were the cutest things ever! Plus, I love little creative things like that. I really enjoyed putting them together. They include: personalized sunglasses (to be used at events such as bachelorette party/bridal shower/etc), necklace and earrings to wear on wedding day (and any day in between), pictures of dresses that they can choose from, a fabric swatch of the color dress they are to wear, inspiration pictures for shoes (any closed toe nude heel), paint swatches for the wedding colors, mini bottle of lotion, mini hand sanitizer, and personalized wine stopper. I also made a card to go along with each of them. They all absolutely loved them!

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper

ohmylanta13:  Simple. Just ask. Society has blown out of proportion this aspect of the wedding.

ITA! This whole cottage industry now for Bridesmaid or Best Man invite$ and boxe$ is just all so team too much in my humble opinion.  Right up there with a host of other things the WIC makes seem so necessary. 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

when I called and told them I was engaged I just asked. Hey will you be my bridesmaid?

Lmao gifts are not nessisary and I think a lot of them look like craft projects, which is great if you or your bridesmaid is super into that cutesy stuff, but otherwise nah. 

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