How did you ask your bridesmaids/groomsmen/MOH/BM to be in your wedding???

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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Helper bee

I hand-made these cards, added a personal note, and gave them to the girls. I’m not one for over-the-top “proposals,” so this was a good fit for us. 


(Sideways for no particularly good reason… And it won’t let me load the second picture! Stand by for a second response…)

 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I just asked them. My Maid/Matron of Honor I asked face to face and my Bridesmaid or Best Man over text. I knew she would be ok with that. I didn’t give them a present or anything because my group doesn’t tend to do that but also because I wasn’t 100% sure they would commit (because of finances) and I didn’t want to make them feel bad if they said no. It kinda felt like it would be a bribe? 

 

Post # 18
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Helper bee

Okay, so it won’t let me do the second picture at all, unless it’s the size of Russia. -_-

Basically, it says “…You!” inside, with a little “dress” hanging from the ribbon. We made dresses out of a paper core with fabric glued on and little bitty embellishments. (SO cute. ^_^) Each of the dresses was different. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I asked them in person or thru text or on the phone and then after they said yes I made diy cards that said “Will you be my bridesmaid?” just to make it official and cute. I asked first because I felt that might make them pressured to say yes if I sent the card and my wedding is Out of Town for all but 1. 

The cards also had dress instructions and the wedding colors along with the date and city. And I tried to make them fit my theme: southern fairytale. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Asked my BMs when we were together at comic con.  Don’t supposed I ever really ‘asked’ my SIL, just instructed her to look for a dress that she liked.

H2B informed is groomsmen in a whatsapp chat.  His dad is also his best man and he made him guess (took about 20 mins and was hillarious to watch.)

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I took my bridesmaids out individually for dinner, and presented them with a gift (beaded clutches, bracelet, and champagne gummy bears) and “will you be my bridesmaid” card, where I wrote about how awesome they are and how much they mean to me.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Bridesmaid Proposal

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Went to dinner with both girls (one on one with each) and asked.  Fiancé called his best man since he lives out of state, and also called his other bc he doesn’t see him often.

Post # 25
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Worker bee

I swear my bridsemaids would have cringed if I did anything special to ask them. They would have given me that look (oh, you are fancy AF)…haha. I just FaceTimed with them (we are all in different states). No formalties in friendship ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

My Maid/Matron of Honor is really into wax melting (the scented not the weed kind) so I made a bunch of ‘custom’ melts for her based off some of her vendor and scent favorites, and used a modge podge letter mold to make the letters ‘will you be my maid of honor?’ in different colored wax which i put in each little wax melt as a word.

asked just under a year ahead of time because thats when we happened to be in the same town and i wanted to ask early.

Post # 27
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Newbee

I gave them boxes that could double as makeup or jewelry carriers once emptied…they were only a few bucks…and then I put the question inside and filled it with things they could enjoy regardless of the wedding.  Hope this helps!

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Invited my close friends over for a wine, told them how much it would mean to me if they were involved. 

I personally really can’t stand big gestures to ‘propose’ to your bridal party. Complete waste expensive just to look like you’re on Pinterest rather than being genuinely heartfelt. (IMO) 

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