Post # 1
It’s about that time now as we are closing in on a year away… I’m officiant shopping.
How do you know if they’re good? What should you look for in an officiant? I know I don’t want to spend a fortune ($3-400 seems the norm here) and they should probably come to the rehearsal. But what else?
I think I have found a good one, and I actually read about him here on WB from another girl, so is that it? I feel like he’s going to be good but having never booked an officiant before I just don’t know!
Post # 3
We found ours by word of mouth. A girlfriend of mine suggested him to me (he married her & her husband in Oct). So I got his email and we sent a few messages back & forth. Me and my Fiance met up with him at a local bar and hit it off immediately. He was laid back, easy to talk to, had things in common with us, understood our “vision”.. it was really a no brainer. I had contacted a few others, and honestly were turned off by the price tag. Some people wanted $600 for a 20 minute ceremony, I think that’s insane. He is charging us $200. He’s experienced (has done 30+ weddings), we will be doing a “pre-rehearsal” about a month before at our venue with just him, me and my Fiance.. that way every thing is laid out & we know what we’re doing, before we have everyone there for the actual rehearsal and trying to put their 2 cents in.. he can be “the bad guy” and say No, we’re doing it this way and that’s how it’s going to be. Then he’ll be there at our actual rehearsal. He’ll also show up about an hour early to the ceremony to go over everything with the dj for the ceremony. He’s really great, and we were really lucky to find him! He’s just a regualr guy with a normal job that does this on the side.
Post # 4
I’m possibly the wrong person to answer this, but I booked our officiant without ever having met him in person or even talked to him on the phone. I e-mailed him, he was available on our date, his price was right, and he is a minister willing to perform a civil/secular ceremony at our location. I also asked if it was an option to do the old school traditional vows. That was really the only info I needed to go for it. It was only after I bookd him, that I went looking for some reviews (which were all good!)
If you have a specific requirement (ex. want something different or unusual in your ceremony), I’d ask about that to be sure that the officiant could accomodate.
Post # 5
Our officiant (haven’t met with him yet) was suggested by the coordinator of our venue, so I guess that counts as word of mouth. She sees a lot of weddings, so I’m willing to trust her! We weren’t looking for anything too specific. A nice compromise between my religious beliefs and my fiance’s lack thereof 🙂
Post # 6
This probably isn’t going to help you, but I’m excited about it, so I thought I’d share! We’re being married by the same minister who married my parents, 32 years ago. So far, we’ve talked only via email, but he seems amazing. 🙂
Post # 7
We wimped out. One of the reasons we’re getting married on a boat is because the captain can officiate. We can pick male or female, and we get to meet with them the week before.
Still, it solves a lot of problems for us–my father, who hasn’t shadowed a church doorway for actual worship in at least 25 years, wanted a minister, and after my sister had a Hawaii-package minister who wore a robe adorned with two gold rings like the MasterCard logo, I’ve been funny about what the officiant wears.
Post # 8
We shopped around online for someone who wasn’t $400+, was willing to do a non-religious ceremony, and had good reviews. Our officiant blogs all her weddings so I had a good sense of what her style is, how she goes about things, etc. She also had a garden at her home that she could perform a small ceremony (big bonus as we had no ceremony location in mind) and gave us a discount for a weekday wedding and because we are both students. She had hundreds of positive reviews all over the internet, so it was clear that she was able to get along well with different kinds of couploes/situations.
Post # 9
I found ours by searching local officiants on here, I think. We wanted someone who would perform a customized, civil ceremony, and this couple has lots of glowing reviews from non-traditional brides. We met with them and they were just…great. It’s hard to explain, but we got a good vibe from them, and their ceremony packet is huge and has tons of choices. They also run the rehearsal, which is great. Their fee was kind of high ($300), but I guess I had no idea the fee ranges to begin with.