(Closed) How did you choose?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
2750 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re both from Toronto, Canada.  Will be getting married in Cancun, Mexico.  If budget were no obligation, we’d be going to Hawaii.  However, to be considerate of those we want there with us, we are having it at an all-inclusive resort.

We decided to do destination once we realized that we were NOT okay with forking out $200 to have someone we don’t even know come to celebrate ONE DAY with us. 

The last thing we wanted was to become a big show.  So even if NO ONE shows up, we celebrate our marriage with 10 days in paradise. =)  And we are very content with out decision.  Actually, it was FI’s idea to begin with after seeing me stress out about accomodating people here in Toronto (where the average wedding costs over $30k).

For about half of that, we are celebrating for 10 days instead of 1.  We have those people we truly love with us instead of a giant party with people we don’t know.  And we get to go to paradise instead of staying home!

Post # 5
78 posts
Worker bee

Hi!  We are in DC, his family is in Cali and MN and mine is in MA and Ohio.  We chose Ohio as it’s the most central, and cheaper than the other options.  I grew up there, but haven’t lived in Ohio in 10+ years.  It is making the most sense, and hopefully my family can put up some of his and bring down the costs for everyone.  

Post # 6
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

We’re on the east coast and chose Vegas for its simplicity.  Well, I should say accesibility.  Its cheap in winter and legally, easy as crap.  I really wanted some fun out there destination with no more than 10 guests.  He wanted more of a to-do.  I found a horse ranch in mexico, cliff side weddings in greece.  None of this appealed to him.  We “settled” on Vegas.  Technically a destination, easy for guests and the wallet.

Post # 7
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@mrsbruff2b: basically wrote my entire post…


ETA – except we are going to Jamaica 🙂 

Post # 8
7 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

We live in Oregon.  My mom is the only other family member here.  My sister is in Texas and FI’s family is on the East Coast. 

We want to get married on a warm beach (Oregon has gorgeous – but cold – beaches).  Ideally, we’d like to go to Hawaii or the Caribbean, but it’s too pricey for most family members.  So, we’ve decided on the Florida panhandle.  My sister and her family can drive there from Texas and it will be cheaper for FI’s family to fly down.  It will cost us a lot, but it’s important to us that everyone is able to be there, especially since we are only inviting immediate family.

Post # 9
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I live just outside of Vancouver, BC and I’m going to Maui for my wedding.

We wanted to have a small wedding and we felt that if we had one here we would feel obligated to invite too many people.  We chose Hawaii because we have vacationed there together before and loved it (although never to Maui) and chose Maui because it’s a place that not many of our friends and family have been to but where they really want to go. 

I don’t feel like I’m talking them into a vacation they don’t want since so many of them said “I’ve always wanted to go there, I can’t wait”.  Also, Fiance isn’t really into the whole wedding thing (I’ve explained many times on here that yes, he’s kind of doing it for me and would be quite happy to stay common law our whole lives) and mixing it with a vacation is making him more excited about it.

The week after the wedding we’re flying to Kauai to get some time to ourselves 🙂

Post # 10
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We live in Minnesota and will be getting married in Disney World.

I’d always said (since before we even met) that I wouldn’t get married unless I could have my Disney World honeymoon. When we started the planning process, we discovered that a Disney wedding would cost less than half of what we were thinking we would have to spend up here for the same quality… and then we could just stay for the honeymoon instead of making a seperate trip. We are spending as much on both the honeymoon and wedding now as we would have on just the wedding if we had it here (and then we would have had to pay for the honeymoon seperately).

Plus… neither of us are very social people and didn’t have that many people that we thought were important enough to invite. so our hermit-like ways are a great big plus.

Post # 11
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance was married before (it was a horrible union). So I know that he really didn’t want a big lavish wedding. We love the sun and the beach and we knew that a Destination Wedding would be right for us. We both are extremely busy and didn’t want to spend thousands on a weddding.So we are have a ‘Weddingmoon’, we are saving tons of money but still getting the things that we want.

Post # 13
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i knew for years i wanted to get married on a beach. it just sounded so romantic to me. i think the idea was put in my head when a friend of mine years ago moved to Hawaii and got married on the beach.  I also love travelling.  DH loves travelling too and his reasoning was also that he didn’t want to have a big exepnsive wedding with his entire extended family present, but he also knew he was obligated to invite them – so the Destination Wedding idea worked for him too. Extended family for me was not an issue as they all live in Egypt and would not be coming no matter where we got married.

Once we got engaged, i realized Hawaii would be too expensive, so we decided on Mexico.  Well, it turned out DH’s mother’s doctor advised her not to travel to Mexico for health reasons, so we needed to find a new location.  Cuba was ruled out as i was living in the states for a year, Dominican was ruled out as we had both been before and wanted to go to somewhere different. I finally looked into Jamaica because i knew someone who got married there. Turned out she did it at a very budget friendly resort (which was a big factor for us), and so we ended choosing the same resort as her!  So choosing a location ended up being much more complicated than i thought, but we managed to sort it out.

  When we got engaged, we were living in Montreal and then we moved to the states for a year for my internship. Now we have moved back to Canada.


ETA: Mrsbruff2be and CanadianMermaid’s reasons also played in – 10 days instead one in paradise sounded like a win win situation.   

Oh and as for guests, well i knew our closest friends would come we all love travelling to all inclusives in the Caribbean. we have done it before together and separately and all of us wanted to go to Jamaica. DH’s parents would be travelling no  matter what and we also helped them out initially.  The only sucky part was in the end due to timing and cost, 2 of my best friends couldn’t make it and neither could DH’s sister.  So we did an AHR last summer to celebrate with them (and of course with everyone else who couldn’t come, but if those VIPs had come to Jamaica, we would not have done an AHR).

Post # 14
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am from nashville, tn and we are getting married in St. Thomas USVI. We wanted to have a really small intimate wedding and this was our way of doing it

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