Post # 1
We have been talking about wedding ideas more and more, although we’ve only just started ring shopping (trying to wait patiently!) and realized that we may have to make a choice as to where to get married. I had always assumed we’d have the wedding where we live now, with about 2/3 of our guests coming in from out of town – including both of our families and many of our best friends and wedding parties. SO (of course, major eyeroll) hadn’t even thought about it. But we just visited my family for Christmas, and SO asked where I wanted to have our wedding like multiple locations are potential choices – including where my family is. I’d never though about getting married anywhere but the city where we met/live, but it is REAAAAAAALLY expensive to have a wedding here. My hometown is still expensive, but less so, and with exchange rates would save us a bundle. Also, about 2/3 (though obviously a different 2/3) would be out of town, so about the same number traveling.
So I thought I’d poll – where are you getting married and how did you decide?
Post # 2
We got married where we live together, which is also my FI’s hometown. My hometown would have been a lot cheaper but there wouldn’t have been anywhere near as many options as the town where we live and I didn’t want to have to plan the wedding from a distance. And my FI’s family pretty much never travels whereas mine enjoy travel so it made more sense to have the wedding closer to his parents in that regard.
No matter where we chose have the wedding it was going to be out of town for 90% of our guests but where we live has a major airport so it’s cheaper to fly to than my hometown which has a teeny tiny airport and is typically more expensive to fly in and out of so that was also a consideration.
Post # 3
We got married where we live, which is about 450 miles from my family and 800 from DHs (so travel for a huge number of people). We didn’t want to make all of one family have to travel when the other family didn’t have to travel at all, and we also wanted to be able to meet our vendors in person. I planned my sister’s bridal shower from afar and it was a huge headache. If I planned our wedding in my hometown, my mother would have had to shoulder much of the planning burden by meeting with vendors, site tours, tastings, etc – since I wouldn’t have been able to make all those appointments without a significant amount of time off and multiple flights.
In the end, almost all of our families traveled to celebrate with us. We had about 80-90% of our invited guests attend.
Post # 4
We picked a city two hours drive from where we live, family would all have to travel regardless but the venue we picked was a bargain price so that made the decision for us really.
Post # 5
We are getting married in my hometown because it’s where my family church is and close to the only living grandparents. We contemplated having the wedding a little closer to his family, but it’s hard to get married in a Catholic Church that you don’t have ties to.
The vast majority of our families are all over, so most will have to travel 2-5 hours, which is less than if we got married where I currently go to school. We are considering having small celebrations in his hometown and where my mom grew up after the wedding for those who couldn’t attend.
Post # 6
Is where you are living now ~the same price (or less than) where either of you were born? I feel like we will need to pay a big premium to have our wedding here, but that would be ideal.
It’s also a complicating factor that SO doesn’t have much close extended family, and they don’t all live close together. Also, his parents don’t live where he grew up so he only visits his “hometown” once every five years or so. A good chunk of my family lives close together, and we celebrate holidays together quite regularly. I can’t imagine that his family members would be more or less likely to come if it is were we live now vs. where I grew up.
Post # 7
Is your venue in a “destination” city or town? Like, is there an incentive for guests to visit there other than your wedding?
Post # 8
Significantly more expensive to get married where we live. We got married in downtown DC during the National Cherry Blossom festival. We figured if everyone was traveling, at least it was to a fun spot with lots of things to do.
Post # 9
We got married in the city where we both live. I was born in another town in the same metropolitan area, but moved here when I was in my teens and most of my family and our friends live in the area too.
Post # 10
We live in a large metro. So we aren’t getting married in the same city we live in, but 20 minutes away. We’re both from this area, so is all the family. It just made sense.
We meet two hours away is a different city we lived in at the time, but there is no way we wantediluvian to get married their or make our guests travel.
Post # 11
– least travel for our guests overall (no matter what almost everyone would have to travel–all of our friends are spread out across the continent)
– least expensive
– near either where we live or where we grew up (we went with his hometown)
Post # 12
Haha, we’re comparing a DC wedding to a wedding in Toronto (where I grew up). Canadian dollar is awful now, so our money would go a loooooong way in comparison, and it’s a great city to visit and explore. Cheap flights too! But a DC wedding would be wonderful, just painfully pricey. Also, my parents would like to help pay for the wedding, and their Canadian dollars wouldn’t go nearly as far down here. For instance – a $6,500 venue here just became $8,700 CAD. Wheras my dreaaaaaam venue in Toronto would cost about $2,400 USD for the space. Cheaper for us, and for any family contributions. But sigh, a DC wedding…
Post # 13
We got married in husband’s hometown which is also where we met, dated, and where we live now. My parents live about an hour and a half from where I grew up and we had almost no guests invited from that area (and one of the guests loves to travel). Where my parents live is not convenient to an airport, so would have made planning difficult. So we got married here!
Post # 14
We are getting married in my Fiance hometown. I would’ve loved to get married where we currently live because there’s a lot of historic buildings,but it’s expensive.
A venue the cost us 2,500,catering included and a nice outdoor space.
While here we were looking at anywhere from 5,000-10,000 with also having to cater in from a seperate company.
Post # 15
We picked based on cost. Which just so happened to be my hometown. 90% of our guests are out of towners but the other cities (where we live now and where Fiance is from) would have cost us + our guests a lot more. It was a no brainer after that. Initially, I thought it would make planning harder, but its gone pretty smoothly so far. Good luck!