(Closed) How did you choose your bridesmaids? Help!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My bridesmaids are family only.  It was important to me that I incorporate our families since they have been very supportive of us.

That had me at 4 girls standing up there with me. The most I wanted was 1 or 2 more, but I really didn’t want to rank my friends against each other for those spots (nor could I coordinate a 10-girl bridal party) – so I am also asking a cousin to round out the number of groomsmen my FI wanted.  I had initially been on the fence, but am happy I am going that route since it is meaning much more to her than I could have imagined (they have a lot of changes going on in her family and I underestimated how much “feeling included” would mean to her right now).

I have one friend in particular who seemed a little sad I didn’t ask her – but I think she understands the “family only” part.  I’m going to be asking her to still have a role in the festivities since she’s been there for me and great these past few years.  That was a tough convo but when I explained it, I think she understands now.

  • This reply was modified 3 years ago by  Consultette.
Post # 3
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1453 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

One thing that I think makes it a lot easier: Your sides don’t have to be even. And you can have men on your side and women on his side. Whatever works for you!

I think including one sister but excluding the other could be tricky. Maybe talk to your close sister about it?

We basically went with all family. His side: his 2 brothers, his SIL he’s known since he was 4, his close friend who was his other SIL’s sister’s wife (she wore a suit). My side: My sister, my best friend since we were 2, my brother, and his other SIL. And we had a couple ushers of both genders who are also family.

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