(Closed) How did you choose your date?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ideally, it would have been on our dating anniversary, but we had some guests who are still attending college, so we moved it to May, the next soonest month they would be available and as soon as possible after their finals.

Then I consulted my mother, who consulted the Chinese calendar, and she gave me a bunch of auspicious dates. I wanted a Saturday, May 12, but my planner (we had our wedding in Hawaii too) said that on weekends, beaches are crowded and it would cost me an extra $200, so it would be better on a weekday.

Tadah!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

First I chose a month–I went with September because I didn’t want to do a wedding diet or go tanning. (We are very active all summer so I always lose some weight and end up tan by the end of the summer, I look my best in September without trying!) Then I just went with whatever Saturday was available at my venue in September.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We chose a time of year that we wanted and then sat down with a calendar… We wrote every birthday, holiday, sporting event, etc. we could find and then went with the weekend that worked the best.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We wanted June/July, and it was the only Saturday available at our reception space. Done deal!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

was just the first available date that wasn’t in the dead of winter!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We chose our date due to the fact that I’d be on winter break from school and would be graduating two months later. I originally wanted a spring wedding but my bestfriend is getting married June 2014 and I didn’t want our dates to be too close to each other. But love that we’re getting married in December. We first met in December many moons ago when we were in high school and I LOVE CHRISTMAS!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We knew we wanted May or June, the date was determined on the church and venue availability lining up.

My Future Sister-In-Law and her Fiance are getting married on their 10 year anniversary (HS sweethearts) next year…how cute!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

09-18 My birthday

08-17 Our wedding date

07-16 His Birthday

Wouln’t have worked out like this on any other year – and they are all spread out too!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We picked June 7, 2014…started planning and organizing vendors.  I decided to contact the girl who my parents have been calling my sister my entire life to kindly give her a heads up on the date (mind you, a few weeks after we started planning), and she replied back saying that was my neices graduation commencement day.  I said ok?  (My sister only talks to me a few times a year when she wants something, she quite the gossip, backstabber, 2 faced drama queen)

So this caused a ton of drama with my sister and neice, and her concerns with family staying here, going there (3 hours away), me being selfish and self-centered….

But all the text messages I’ve received from them were “all the familiy should go see their grand daughter graduate instead of their daughter seeing her second marriage” …now that sounds selfish to me. I’m not holding a gun to my familes  heads making them choose me. They are all adults and can make their own decisions. Yep. this is my second marriage, they were all at my first, so the only people that end up being at my wedding from my family are my 2 kids, well, i’ll just be happy with that.  Best wishes from the other familes will do just fine for me.  So does that sound selfish? 

SOoooooo…after all this…Fiance and I decided to secretly change the date to 2 weeks later to the Summer Solstice, June 21st.  We don’t feel like dealing with the non stop drama, facebook posts from her and her kids/DH and the rude texts about the date.  We are ignoring them.  Letting them stew over the date for a while since they said some personal things on a social media site and aired some dirty laundry that was uncalled for.  

Needless to say, we are inviting people that are in our lives, not a part. After all this, they aren’t coming to the wedding.  There is a lot more involved than what I wrote, but overall, I’m not dealing with my sister’s adult temper tantrums anymore.

 

So that’s how we came up with our new date…plus, its the longest day of the year!

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We originally wanted September 21, because Fall is our favorite season and that is the first day of Fall. Too bad our reception site was already booked that day.

 

Next we picked October 5, because we want a solid fall date but not so late in fall that it will be chilly (we live in the Chicago suburbs so October can be in the 70s or the 30s!). Our venue got booked on that date before we could get back to the event coordinator.

 

September 7 was our third choice date. Still fallish, but should definitely be warm and pretty that day. I am working hard to make our wedding “fall-but-not-too-fall” now. Instead of deep fall colors, I’m doing olive green and yellow.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We looked at work obligations and had a few that would work, went to our wanted venue and ended up being picking the closest of the dates available. Nothing too romantic.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We aimed for a long weekend because our wedding has to be on a Sunday, we grabbed Labor Day weekend so people would not have to go to work the following Monday.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MrsD2Be:  We didn’t have any sentimental date we were trying to hit.  We simply did not want to get married during the peak season, but didn’t necessarily want winter as well.  Since my sister is getting married in Feb of 2014, that left us the fall.  We opted for the weekend in November close to Veteran’s Day so we can benefit from a federal holiday for future anniversaries. 

However I have some slight regret that I didn’t think of a once-in-a-lifetime date like March 14, 2015 before we put deposits down so we could’ve had PI as our wedding date! 😀

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We wanted an early summer or late summer early fall wedding. I looked at dates for next year 2014 and first we were going to do august 15th which is my SOs grandparents anniversary.  His grandma has passed away and his grandpa remains a huge part of his life. Well the 15th is weird day weekday I think. So we looked into more dates and had planned for a saturday. However finding out how expensive food and bev minimum s were made us reconsider. We have a smaller guest list about 135 and most minimums were 4000 dollars. We arent having a big budget wedding so we started to look at a friday. We saw the 27th and new it was our day. Our dating anniversary is already the 27th, tho in February.  One last day for him to remember right?(:

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