(Closed) How did you choose your maid of honor?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
489 posts
Helper bee

My Maid/Matron of Honor will be my best friend! She has always been my right hand and sometimes left. I couldn’t imaginexpensive getting married without her standing beside me. My only sister will be one of my BM’s. If I had to choose only one person to stand with me it would be my best friend. 

Post # 17
55 posts
Worker bee

A lot of my friends had their sister be their Maid/Matron of Honor. But honestly it should just be someone that can run support and not drive you insane, and someone that you actually like and care for. I’m not having a wedding party, personally. There is a lot of drama surrounding it so I decided to nix it altogether.

Post # 18
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

For me it was my sister. We lost our mum a few years ago and have become really close so was only ever the one choice. Of her own choice, she did a fantastic job on the morning of the wedding keeping everything calm for me and actually confiscated my phone. Really sweet!

Post # 19
1945 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I always wanted my sister to be my maid of honour, even though we don’t live in the same country and she wasn’t able to come to any dress appointments or planning evenings or even the rehearsal event etc I just wanted and needed her to be my maid of honour on the wedding day and she was wonderful and I really feel something would’ve been so wrong if I had picked someone else just because of proximity during the engagement period.

Post # 20
334 posts
Helper bee

I chose my MOH’s (I have 2), when I lived 10 hours away from them. Now I am back in the same town, I see them only every couple of weeks due to busy lifestyles. I haven’t expected them to help me at all, I just want them to be there with me on my special day. 

Post # 21
40 posts

I chose my best friend as my Maid/Matron of Honor. We’ve been best friends since we were 9, and have grown up together, went to college, traveled and both work in the finance industry together. She recently moved 3 hours away but we see each other a few times a year, and talk and text on a daily/weekly basis.

My sister is 10 years older and we’ve never been very close aside from family things. I love her but didn’t want to choose her as my Maid/Matron of Honor just because we’re sisters. 

Post # 22
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Originally I was thinking of asking my cousins but  I told my best friend I was planning to  have my wedding half way across the world from where we live and a totally not baby friendly place( Vegas) she started talking to her husband about flight and when to book hotels so I asked her instead! 

She had me do a speech at  her wedding, which is pretty much the equivilant to being the maid of honor in Japan.

it was a no-brainer.

Post # 23
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

I have many close girlfriends but we are having an intimate wedding so my cousin (like a sister to me) will be Maid/Matron of Honor and future step daughter (age 16) my Jr bridesmaid. :+)

If we were having a big wedding would have my best friends standing with me too but we wanted to keep it simple and small but they will share in our big day of course!!

All those close to me have and will help if needed but that’s mainly up to me and FH in my opinion….I don’t expect or want anyone to fuss over me.


Post # 24
2507 posts
Sugar bee

ellecherie:  more than 20 and fewer that 30 years ago, my parents (presumably) got it on and then (roughly) 9 months later, they handed me my maid of honor. (:

Post # 25
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I plan on having (as in I haven’t officially asked anyone yet… we don’t have a date or a venue or anything… just early planning so I can have a head start…) but originally planned on having my sister as maid of honor, my best friend as matron of honor, other two best friends as bridesmaids as well as my two cousins. I’ve pretty much decided against asking the cousins (we aren’t all that close… didn’t grow up together, the age difference between us is 10 years and 15 years respectively (the youngest just graduated from high school a couple days ago) and they have a lot going on, so I know it’ll be a mess… their mom and grandmother (my cousin and aunt… they are my second cousins) will expect me to cover everything for them, plan around their schedules, etc (and with the youngest being under 21, many things would have to be nixed so no feelings are hurt (insert eye roll) so they’re out. I kind of had a fight with the friends (more of I was very hurt by something they said in a group message the four of us are in together and have thought of nixing them as well and having just my sister). What I end up doing is still up in the air… I had always assumed id have those group (we’ve been friends for over 20 years) but I’m a doormat and if I have them (or anyone, including sister and parents and anyone) I’ll end up having what everyone else wants and not what I want. 

Post # 26
3327 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I didn’t have one or any bridesmaids

however when my auntie got married she picked her older step sister.

when my husbands daughter got married she also picked her older sister.

my boss is asking her best friend who she does everything with and they already agreed many years ago when they were kids to be each others maid of honor.

if I would have had one, it probably would have been my friend at the time who I wa every close to


Post # 27
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

My maid of honour is my oldest sister and my fiancee’s oldest brother is his best man

Post # 28
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - The Meadows

I picked my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s been through it all before, I knew she’d be honest, she’d help if she could, and she’s pushy, but in a good way. She’s always pushed me to do more, to work harder. I have three super close friends, and I couldn’t pick between them. All three of them are so important to me, and have been the closest at different times in our lives, but I didn’t want anyone to be hurt or offended. It seemed like the path of least fighting or resentment. Me and my sister can be harsh to each other at times, so I knew if I got stressed, she could handle me at my worst.

Post # 29
4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I had my best friend. 

Post # 30
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

My oldest sister is going to be my maid of honour I couldn’t imagine anyone else.

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