(Closed) How did you choose your MOH?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who should be my MOH?
    A : (21 votes)
    84 %
    K : (4 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    You could choose both. Im having two since i didnt want to choose between my sister and best friend.

    Post # 4
    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    ask them both – co-MOHs :]

    Post # 5
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Could you have them both be MOHs?

    How many other bridesmaids are there?

    If it’s just the 2 of them, do you need one to be Maid/Matron of Honor, or could they both be bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor.

    My choice was easy, I have 1 sister, she is my Maid/Matron of Honor. Fiance has one brother, and that’s his Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    Post # 6
    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you really want only one, I would go with A.  It seems like K will be really busy, and it’s hard to plan showers & bachelorettes when you have other stuff going on.  But I agree with the PPs that said have both.  Why not?

    Post # 7
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was in the same situation as you and couldn’t choose between them, so I chose both!

    Post # 9
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Mrs.LetsGoPens: I missed your last update. I have 4 other BMs, so there wasn’t just 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. That being said, if I was in your shoes I would still pick both girls to be your MOHs.

    Honestly I never understood the hard feelings over not being a MOH? I was grateful when my aunt asked me to Bridesmaid or Best Man instead of a Maid/Matron of Honor (she had hinted in the past that she wanted me to her Maid/Matron of Honor but chose someone else instead).

    Post # 11
    5889 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i don’t think i’d make them both MOHs just because then your poor third friend would feel excluded.

    Post # 12
    877 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would ask A to be the Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s a lot of work and it sounds like she can’t commit a lot of time to those extra duties at this point in her life.

    Post # 13
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If you are only having 3 bridesmaids, I would not ask any of them to be a maid of honor.  I don’t think you can ask 2 of the 3 because the 3rd will just feel like the third, least important, wheel.  Do you have to have a MOH?  Just ask any of them for help when you need it and delegate responsibilities as needed, but no need for a special title.  Especially if anyone will end up hurt.

    Post # 14
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am having two Matrons of honor and then 5 bridesmaids (I know – large BP) plus a flower girl.  I love, love love my one Maid/Matron of Honor, and the other is my FH sister, so it was at his request.  I’m happy with my choices.  The only difference this makes for me is who is giving the speech at the reception.  EVERYONE in my Bridal Party is helpful and  supportive!  Ask all three to be in the wedding and just HELP.  No titles are necessary. 

    Post # 15
    1636 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    I would pick the one who seems most interested in you and your feelings.  the one who will respect your wishes.  The one who if you make changes won’t get upset, and will be able to adapt. 

    You may love them both equally, but this is an important day!  take a piece of paper, make 2 columns and write down the plusses of each one..  You know their personalities more than we do.

    thats what I would do.


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