How did you choose your ring?

posted 8 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
2656 posts
Sugar bee

I was between a round brilliant and a cushion cut, but leaning towards the cushion cut.  I contacted my jeweler and he happened to have the perfect stone for the perfect price and we jumped on it.  I chose a simple white gold cathedral setting with surprise rubies on the sides. 

The setting was only $450, so my SO told me that I could always change the setting later if I wanted something more ornate.  So maybe that helped me make the decision since I knew I could make changes later?

A year later, I am still very happy with it.  I would maybe consider upgrading to a 3 stone at some point since we might not do wedding bands, but for now, I haven’t regretted it.

I think the best way is to decide on what you want and try to not keep looking.  There will always be new designs and if you keep trying to chase it, then you’ll never be happy.

Post # 3
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

ichliebe :  your idea of a round with pear side stones sounds gorgeous!

i sort of chose my ring, we were offered a diamond by my Fiance mother, and when we went to the jeweler he showed me a few other options. I ultimately decided to use the family diamond (it’s gorgeous and has sentimental value). I chose my setting, all I ever wanted was a solitaire in yellow gold. There was no hesitation/change of mind when it came to the ring design, I think keeping the ring itself fairly classic ensures that you will love it forever.

I think in 15 years or so I may want to get it reset with trillions on the side, but that would be way too much for me now. 

Post # 4
848 posts
Busy bee

ichliebe :  That setting style is gorgeous and so unique. I absolutely love them!

Years ago, I wanted a big oval halo, but changed my mind when I realized I actually hated halos. I didn’t think too much about what I wanted until recently, but I knew I loved round solitaires and wanted rose gold. In the fall, as I was hoping an engagement would come soon, I began doing research. A friend of mine got engaged in August and we knew we liked the same style, but when she got her solitaire on a gold band, I realized I wanted something a little different. I decided on a pave band, but there were so many factors such as width, carat weight, etc.

It was a tedious process, but I’m glad I did it when my SO wasn’t actually inquiring. I enjoy reseraching, so I definitely dug way too deep.

About a week ago, I found a setting that was not what I had my heart set on for the past few months. It has a pave band, is thicker than the previous ones and has two small side stones. I have a similar worry to you- will I love it even though it’s not what I initially wanted? I gave my boyfriend the option of picking the 3 stone or the solitaire/pave. I decided that whatever he picks is meant to be and he obviously made his choice becaue he thinks it’s “me” and the best option. Additionally, I couldn’t get both of the settings out of my head when I found them for a reason, so there’s no need to second guess- Remember that! The grass is always greener, right?

Post # 5
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

same here ! during last years I always imagined my e ring being a solitaire with a very small diamond ; but when time of shoping cames I went for a 0.5 ct and now i still wondering if i will not change my mind again and like the smaller one again …..


Post # 6
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

ichliebe :  I thought I wanted a specific style of ring, but when I tried them on I was a little underwhelmed. They were pretty but it didn’t blow me away. Randomly we found another setting that we fell in love with and I didn’t think it was going to be my style at all, but this was the setting we ended up getting. Stay open and listen to your gut. 

Just like with wedding gowns, there are literally so many rings out there that you’ll never find the “perfect” ring. It’s an ideal that doesn’t exist. Don’t put too much pressure on it because it’s just a ring- who says you can’t get another one down the road if you want? 

Post # 7
327 posts
Helper bee

I got stuck like this. I got on Pinterest and it was terrible because I wanted all the things. So I just designed what I WANTED to wear based on things that I liked from other rings. Go to stores and try things on and see if anything really speaks to you. You can find little bits and pieces that you like with certain rings that you don’t with others and most jewelers will let you create something custom. Listen to your instincts and not what you think will look best based on anyone else’s opinions but your own. I’ve had my ring for almost a year now and I can’t get enough because it’s what I wanted. What type of ring makes you smile and your heart sing like you have a super crush when you look at it on your finger? Go with that feeling. 

Post # 8
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

This is exactly why I’m secretly happy I’m not engaged lol I told my boyfriend I NEED to go shopping with him to decide.

Post # 9
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We went through three iterations before settling in the ring I have now. I always wanted a simple bezel ring. I ended up with a simple solitaire with a wider band.  It makes me happy. Trust your gut and you’ll know the right ring for you. Don’t settle.

Post # 10
1449 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

I thought I wanted a big solitaire.  I was happy my SO had the means to make my dreams come true.  We looked at 1.2-1.5c stones, found two settings I loved.  He even would have got me the Tiffany if I wanted.  I just wanted him to get a good deal. We looked at lab diamonds too. 

Then one day we were walking through a random jelwery store and we saw this gorgeous 3 stone blue sapphire ring. I don’t know what happened to me I couldn’t get it out of my head.  I left the choice up to him but recently learned he chose that one.  I was so excited.  I can’t wait to get it officially. I surprised myself with what I fell in love with. 

Post # 11
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

The round brilliant is almost identical to mine only bigger, my center diamond is over 0.60 (I don’t remember if 0.64 or 0.66). But it’s the same look: round brilliant two side pears and platinum….so I  am baised when I say that one is the nicest lol ichliebe :  

Post # 12
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I think that’s a beautiful ring! 

I also had conflicting thoughts when it came to choosing a ring. I actually shopped alone to find out what I wanted and narrowed down to a few settings. I then took those rings and sent links to my then boyfriend to choose from. That way I would get what I wanted but also be surprised. 

If you have tried on similar rings and liked them, I say go for it! At the end of the day, there are so many beautiful rings out there and you can’t have them all! What matters is that you are choosing a ring you love that you will love for years to come.

Post # 13
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Oooh those are beautiful choices.

Yeah, it’s difficult to choose!

We designed ours, and went through a lot of “no, that’s not quite it,” before we hit on the right look. Because I am indecisive as well, I finally just sent photos of rings I was most drawn to, approved the design (it had what I needed: rose gold, and surprise diamonds in the side of the setting) and told them I wanted to be out of the planning from there on, so it would be a surprise. 

And I love it. I could not imagine it being any better. 


I think – look at photos and pin what you love onto a Pinterest board, or save them in a file. Pretty soon you’ll begin to see a trend and similarities will show up. What you’re consistently drawn to is what you will be happy with 🙂

then it’s time to let go! 

I was worried too – worried that when the day came and I saw it in person, it wouldn’t be “right”. But it is even more right than I could have dreamed- a ring I had designed on my own wouldn’t have wound up being this beautiful. 

Enjoy thr process – when the ring is yours, you will love it – there’s a magic that happens with THE ring. 😉 

Post # 14
376 posts
Helper bee

I always liked rings like the 3 stone you posted, a round stone with small details on the side. It looks like the Aria setting from Brilliant Earth. I loved that one and the Selene from Brilliant Earth. I only tried on rings at Costco for size. I also left the final decision to him (I would have been happy with anything and was pretty convinced I was getting a nice second hand ring). 

He picked the James Allen setting most similar to the Aria and Selene. I love it. No regrets.

Post # 15
377 posts
Helper bee

Your choices are lovely!

I thought I wanted an emerald cut, but when I tried on an oval, I fell in love.  To be sure it wasn’t a fleeting feeling, I imagined living with it for about a month. I looked at pictures every few days and kept putting on other rings to be sure I didn’t like anything else more.  After that, I was completely sure.  About four years on, I still look at my ring and swoon.  

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