(Closed) How did you convince your SO to get you something other than a diamond?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Oh yes I also went no blood diamond and chose a supplier that is certified as having conflict free diamonds as that was important to me and my platinum diamond vintage style ring was a third of the price of what he was thinking of spending. It’s not a huge diamond but as it is a cluster it looks bigger and that’s not the focus. The Victorian ring company and they do coloured stones and also made to order and deliver all over the world http://www.london-victorian-ring.com/


Post # 47
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Pffff, my Fiance was THRILLED that I didn’t want to drain from our savings on a diamond. He’s also very secure with himself (in addition to practical) and doesn’t really give a shit what people other than me think of such things. I’d say you have the right theory with the male ego bit as you mentioned in your OP. Tell him to get over himself. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  kbee86.
Post # 48
138 posts
Blushing bee

I said, “I want a moissanite.” He said, “okay.” To this day, I’m not sure he knows what moissanite is.

Post # 50
3 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

(My first post! But long time lurker..). I may be in the minority here but I left all of the decisions concerning my engagement ring up to my husband. We had talked about marriage and casually browsed through rings throughout the year before he proposed but I told him I ultimately wanted him to surprise me with what he thought I would like. We came to an agreement on a budget, but that’s about it. He ended up surprising me with a ring with a beautiful 2.75ct Forever Brilliant moissanite center stone and told me we could change or upgrade my ring by the time we have our wedding ceremony if I wanted. I didn’t know much about jewelry and had never heard of moissanite but I absolutely fell in love with it! I think having no expectations and giving him the freedom to pick whatever he wanted made that moment and my ring all the more special.

Post # 51
3297 posts
Sugar bee

I told him I didn’t want him to spend a heap on my engagement ring, but I am a very particular person (knew what size stone I wanted) and if I had of gotten a diamond ring it would have cost upwards of $15k and that just didn’t sit right with me… So I found out about Moissanite and told him they are a 10th of the cost of a diamond. Luckily we could go see one in person (in Australia here), and we both agreed that it looked great so we took the plunge! 200% happy with my choice! Now we have more savings for more important things like a house 😀

Post # 52
1706 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I told him what I did want, and  he delivered. 🙂 

Post # 53
10399 posts
Sugar Beekeeper


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I absolutely love your ring !!

Post # 54
718 posts
Busy bee

Whenever I feel like I don’t want to ‘compete’ in some kind of social thing, like in engagement rings here for instance, I opt out and go vintage/antique. Everyone always oooh’s and ahhh’s over my vintage things because they’ve never seen anything like it, and no one can even guess how much it cost since vintage items can go for dirt cheap to even more expensive than new ones. It reminds me of my wedding dress. I didn’t want to spend what everyone else was spending on their designer gowns, but I also wanted to look impressive so I ended up buying a brand new, vintage chantilly lace dress from a bridal store on ebay cleaning out their old stock for $50. It was so different from every other dress currently in stores that I got a ton of compliments!

I also bought my 1 carat diamond on ebay for $600, so if you have $3-$4k you could get something that satisfies your SO’s desire to impress others and your desire to stay under budget. If he doesn’t want to tell people he bought it on eBay, he can say it was from an estate sale (which is technically true). If you go to the Pricescope forums they will help you find an incredible ring in your budget.

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